Baby doesn't like to go to anyone

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Hi,

Hope you are well?

Has anyone child hate seeing and being held by a stranger to them (relatives)?

My DS screams bloody murder when my MIL and FIL hold him. Is this normal ? How do I get my baby used to people ?

He just wants to be held by me or my husband.

In laws keep on commenting when my baby cries so much "this what happens when you don't bring the baby everyday". Which upsets my DH quite a lot.

They have loads of grandchildren who adore them and can't get past why my baby doesn't want to go to them.

My DH agrees with them. Saying I should make effort to take my baby to see them more often. So he can get used to them.

I'm FTM to a 4 month old baby boy xx

My eldest and youngest happily went to anyone. DC2 on the other hand, never wanted to and still is much more reserved. I’m sure it’s nothing you are doing (or not doing) and just about personality. Ignore them.

Yes, it’s really normal. It means he has a good healthy attachment to you (and realistically probably hasn’t spent much time around anyone else). One day he’ll enjoy it but he’s still too little now.

They are being unreasonable. It's perfectly normal for a baby to suddenly realise they are a separate entity from mum/dad and be upset about the idea of you being apart.

My DD hit separation anxiety just as we were coming out of first lockdown. You just have to do what baby is comfortable with, so in our case I would hold her while my parents did fun things to entertain her. Slowly she would go to them more often and now they are all best buddies! It did upset my dad a little at the time but he understood it's just a baby phase!

Could have written your post myself! My 6month old son happily smiles at and will be held by most people EXCEPT my inlaws - he cries as soon as they hold him, and we see them regularly so it's not like he's not "used to" them.

Just nod and smile benignly when they make comments. It's not like you're telling your baby to be miserable around them (though my DM is convinced my breast milk sends DS warning signals when inlaws are about )

My baby is nearly 5 months now and she has been like this from being very little (maybe about 8 weeks). She sees my mum at least 3 times a week and still screams blue murder if she holds her, she used to do it for her Dad too which wasn’t nice. I just took it as she had a strong attachment with me which is healthy, it won’t last forever! With my partner I found that expressing a bottle for him to give every day made a huge difference so if you really want to change the situation you could try that but don’t do it just to please others

It's totally normal, probably been made worse by lockdown.