Angry 8year old

[Orchard2006]

For around 3 years I have suffered with my dd and her anger. She is now 8 and her anger has gone from screaming at me to being physically violent towards me. I spoke with a go who sent round a social worker etc. To try and understand what the problem is as there was no concerns at school the contact just stopped and put down to being a phase. Has anyone else been through this “phase” she has threatened to stab me (with a pencil) push me down the stairs and most recently covered my leg in bruises from constant kicking. I’ve tried the distracting her with other things when she is angry, ignoring her (the bruises) to having to me and my ds (older) being stuck in my bedroom against the door until she calms down.
Is this a phase or should I persist with the gp again?

I sit and cry almost every night and I’m lucky to get 2 good days I can’t remember the last time. I try and do lots of activities with her and only her dance classes, bike rides, arts and crafts but everything ends up with her screaming and fighting me (even when I’m driving)

I’m really getting myself worked up that I am no good for her and she must really hate me because my ds has never been like this,

Just wanted to offer a handhold and bump your post in the hope someone more useful will come along x

Gosh, that sounds so hard. is your DD like this to any other member of the family/ friends, or are her aggressive gestures directed towards you only? Any other causes for worry?

I think you should go back to the GP and discuss whether a referral to CAMHS is appropriate. My 8 year old can have violent meltdowns, with kicking, hitting and throwing things. She is never a problem at school. But it is the pressure of school that leads to some of the meltdowns. My DD is autistic and this is the reason for her meltdowns. I am not suggesting that autism is the reason for your DDs anger but it would certainly be worth considering whether there is a neurological reason for it.