Dropping and picking up child - whos responsible??

[Emmav2020]

My myself and my ex partner separeated 10 years ago. Ds is 11 years old. He visits on a sat night, ive always helped drop and pick up from his dads. Also ive always done the activities/ kids parties aswell, his dad never bothers. He doesnt have a car so always relying in his nates or mum to get my son. Now im pregnant with my OH, ive been saying he needs to step up more and pick and drop of himself. Ive been suffering with sickness and tiredness really bad.
Today weve had a huge argument and hes saying its my job to help with taking and getting him? But i do it all in the week?! Do i have the right to say no on the weekend?

Your dc isn't a pizza and you aren't an Uber driver... He needs to manage his own contact. It's most definitely not your responsibility..

My logic is that the parent who's time it is to see the child, does the picking up. If she is with me, he picks up. If he is with her, I pick up.

My ex doesn't drive either so he has had to walk/get him mum to drive. He has got a partner who recently learnt to drive so that has helped. The only time I'll concede to me doing extra is if the weather was awful I'd rather she didn't schlep 20 minutes in the rain/freezing cold, if she felt under the weather but was still happy to go to her dads or if I'm going in that direction at roughly the right time. Or if he's doing me a favour.

My ex is the same. He temporarily stopped seeing them rather than get a five minute bus to the next town where we live to pick them up and drop them off. I used to do it and I’ve refused for the past 18 months. His mum now picks them up and either his cousin or new girlfriend drop them off now. He tried threatening to take taxis and reduce my cms payments by the taxi costs. I checked and cms don’t allow this. I have them overnight seven days a week. He is legally obliged to pick them up and drop them on the one day in fourteen he sees them. It’s your ex’s responsibility, not yours.

YANBU. You have facilitated his relationship with his son for ten years. If he had him for a few days a week or eow then you doing all the transport would still be unfair, but a lot easier. As he only see’s him for one night a week, and your son is 11 he can utilise public transport-if he is not into that then it is up to him to find a solution.

Block his number and keep all contact via email. If he won’t pick your ds up he doesn’t get to see him simple.

He wants to be able to tell people he doesn't see his dc anymore and it's your fault because you only care about the new man and the new baby. Been there op..