Don't want to be a sahm anymore

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I feel like a bad mum.

I've been a stay at home mum for 3 years. To twins. We couldn't afford childcare so I cared for them at home.

We are eligible for the 30 hours free childcare now they're 3 but I have a complex about it.

My mum used to always pass comments regarding working mothers. Saying what was the point of having kids if you didn't want to be with them. I love my kids but I don't want to be with them all day everyday. I can't give them constant stimulation and I need adult interaction. Especially now, there is nowhere to take them.

My mum's started making comments about me being a diva and putting me down when I comment on how tired I am of the situation. In my anger I said I once regretted becoming a mother. The pandemic has made things so hard. I didn't mean it at all but my mother said it was an awful thing to say.

Your mother is sexist.
I would be extremely surprised if she said that to your DH. I wonder if she said the same to her DH when he went back to work probably the day after you were born.

The fact that she’s putting those feelings onto you is awful.

Do what ever makes you and your family happy.

Stop living your life according to what your mum thinks. Go back to work.

“DS one day will see his mum being a successful independent person and this is important to. “

Totally agree with the above.