parents of children with glasses, how do you deal with the teasing at first, help please my darling sensitive sweet 5 yr old dd is desperately sad

[Piffle]

Am about to cry myself, I knew this would come.
I picked a small little school where she knew kids through the pre school to minimise this sort of thing but even so...

She has to wear her glasses and now she is being teased by ids her own age, who have previously been friends. One girl said I'm not playing with you because your eyes aren't good enough to play with mine

I have told dd that glasses are for very important people, her teacher wears glasses too.
DD is so friendly, everyone loves her, she is broken. And so is a part of me...

Oh Piff
no advice/experience. children can be little beasts, can't they.
x

oh no, ds1 started wearing them when he was 5 and was really pleased because Clark Kent alias Superman wears glasses. There should be a girl superhero who wears them. Could you tell her that clever people wear glasses, or perhaps ask the teacher to have a chat with the class about not being so mean.

awwwww have you had a word with her teacher (so she can speak to the children)?

I think what you're doing sounds right - point out the people who wear glasses (like Harry Potter, anyone on TV who she likes, you or dp etc.).

She's still so little. I know a girl in dd's class had patching and glasses and the teacher had a word with them all about it (to avoid the teasing happening) but then again, they have quite a few children who wear glasses so I think it's just accepted.

And tell her the glasses just help her to see - they don't mean her eyes aren't just as beautiful as everyone else's.

i am really surprised by this. when my nephew started wearing glasses all the kids wanted them. my dcs regularly ask if they can wear mine/have some of their own.

I wish Lola would wear glasses...
I think I will mention it to the teacher tomorrow...
I do say only clever people have glasses, but she is a little too clever to believe that entirely.
She is the only reception child that can read, tell the time and knows her 11 x tables though, so you never know

She has always tripped merrily through life, smiling and being smiled at, this was a rude awakening and it has bene ahrd saying, darling kids can be cruel...

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Piffle - huge sympathies. I can't bear to think of your little girl being treated like that.

DS, 6, has just started wearing glasses fofr reading, and I must admit I felt a bit heartbroken...and I was dreading teasing. But he has had none...so I really think the atmosphere in the classroom has a lot to do with it...go in assertively and get the teacher to deal with it smartly and emphatically!

I really empathise. I had to wear glasses from the age of 6 and I was the only child in a very 'mixed' school with glasses at the time (which seems impossible to imagine these days)
And those were the days when glasses came in NHS pink, blue or brown.
I learned to be very very bitchy. eg ''four eyes'' i would retort ''better than half-a-brain''. Or ''at least I'm not a fatty like you'' or whatever. Well, I was six... .
It passed.

At dsses school, so many kids wear glasses that the ones who don't, wish they did. I swear!

er, I still struggle with wearing glasses. After years of contact lenses, my age, my high prescription and hormonal changes mean I can only wear contacts for special ocasions. I still feel like a different person with glasses. Less vivacious, dowdier etc

Give her a huge hug from me x

poor little darling. Children are really foul, aren't they...

It's so hard to get the message across to children that everyone is different and those mean children have got something different about them too even if you can't see it (not that you'd encourage her to tease them about it obviously)

Just a thought - children love sunglasses. A friend's dd with eye problems has a massive collection of novelty sunglasses and her friends love coming round to play with them and they all dress up and swan around with the sunnies on. Could she have a little collection like that for her friends to play with?

aww piffle how sad
Ds was given glasses about 3mths ago and as yet has not had any comments but then he is only just 4. I have noticed however one of the other little boys he talks about the most also wears glasses. Ds also associates them with being clever and super heros so he was quite happy to wear them and relieved his eyes no longer hurt!!

Oh poor love! A girl in DS's class got glasses last year and all the mums who knew her made a huge point of telling her how fab they looked etc. Not sure but I don't think anyone was horrible to her about them.

And one of DS's best friends got glasses this year and he HATED wearing them at first but again - mumsnet united - we all told him how cool he looked and told our own DCs how cool we thought they were. Took about 2 days for him to be fine.

Def speak to the teacher.

I'm astonished too. One of my dd's best friends at school wears glasses (they're also 5 and in Reception) and dd virtually never mentions it unless the subject of glasses comes up and she'll say 'oh like xxx wears' but there's no sense that she's 'lesser' in any way.

Your poor dd. It's easy for us to suggest the 'rise above it' thing but it's very hard for them to follow through at this age.

Thanks for the messages, I am pretty bereft on her behalf. I'm sure it will pass, but am so wanting to protect her from it. She is such a sweet soul.

Might have to find her some dead on funky specs then...

piffle for your dd. I was going to suggest some really snazzy glasses so other kids may be a bit jealous of them?
It WILL pass though, kids do get bored with that sort of thing. But do ask the teacher to talk to the class about it.