Pick up and drop offs - divorce

[bettertimesarecomingnow]

I wanted to get a flavour of what normally happens.

ExH sees the kids maybe once or twice a month and wants me to collect them from his house on a Sunday night.

That's a 2 hour round trip for me.

I have asked him to arrange his own transport for the children as I have them the other 26 days in the month and do everything else.

This is literally all he does.

He's now threatening to take me to court to force me to pick them up.

Am I being unreasonable to saying, if you want to see them, you should pick them up?

He pays about half the CMS recommended amount of maintenance and does flip all else. While I am busy working full time, running a business part time, raising two kids!

Is the court likely to say I have to do this as well?

Would love to hear from people as to what your arrangements are please!

I have offered half way meets both ways but no, he's refusing. He would collect them from school after his work (ten mins away) but we both live 30 mins the opposite direction from school!

Bobbleka that's exactly how I feel. And I can't get him to understand it like that at all.

I work (always have done) school hours so I can have the hols and after school time with the kids.

Another gripe of mine with my exdh was that from the very beginning and in fact what was my lightbulb moment was that I wanted my dc to see what is and isn’t acceptable behaviour in relationships. I don’t want them to grow up thinking you have to bend over backwards for others shortcomings. I also want them to be strong independent women who are clear on boundaries within relationships even with their df. They have forced his hand this year to take them on a UK short break, COVID permitting as “he never takes us away” which he has agreed to.
We do actually have an amicable relationship but I have boundaries as I don’t have the time or money to be both parents.

We were amicable too, until I stood up to him and now I'm the worst person ever 😂

Made me realise I've been treading on eggshells for 20 years nearly so as not to upset him.

Well, no more.