13 week old advise

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Hi,
Have a few questions after some advise from others - I'm a first time mum.
I put our little one down to bed around 7.30pm the first few hours shes quite quiet then she just wiggles so much! She flaps her arms/legs about in her sleep which causes her to bang the mattress, she sleeps in a next to me crib so its noisy banging on the mattress next to me and its constantly waking me up! She has a dummy and where she is flapping her arms about she knocks her dummy out which wakes her up and then we go round in circles!
Sometimes I try to hold her hands down to help her nod off but im just shattered now as I have so much broken sleep!
She sleeps in a sleepbag (I used to put a blanket on her but she kicked it off all the time) she has always been a wiggly sleeper but it did calm down for a while but its started again. She doesn't seem in pain or anything she's just fidgity!
She isn't keen on being swaddled either.
I do have a clevamuma sleep pod that I'm thinking about putting in her crib in the hopes its keeps her settled in one place and if she does start flapping/kicking about i won't hear it as much as it will be on a softer surface..
Would you use a sleep pod at night time?
If not any suggestions to how to help her stop the arms/legs moving about so much?
Also with weaning, my hv advised to wait until she is 6 months old but im getting different information from different people, I always listen to the advise of my hv but just curious did you try weaning at 4 months? If so would you recommend doing it and what did you introduce?

Also wanted to add playtime.
So she has a play gym which she will only tolerate for 10/15 minutes, I have little sensory books I show her and I sometimes pop on a sensory video for her to watch and cbeebies, but with this lockdown and nowhere to go really it get quite relentless all day everyday doing the same things!
We go out for a nice long walk in the morning she will fall asleep in the pram for most of it.
What kind of things do you do to keep baby & yourself entertained? How do you break this up during the day also?
Iam curious to what other peoples days look like between getting up/feeds/naps & bedtime. 😁

My first was an arm & leg flinger - constantly on the move. We ended up moving him to his own room at 5 months because he was waking us up even though he was asleep.

Weaning advice from NHS is around 6 months and that formula or breast milk should be their main drink till 1yo. I enjoyed the weaning process but in my experience it's messy, frustrating and full of disgusting nappies.

My DD is a couple of weeks older than yours - we do play gym, plenty of floor time (on back and on tummy) and walks in either the sling or buggy. She gets dragged along with DS to everything. We're signed up for baby yoga classes after Easter.

No I wouldn’t use a sleep pod over night. It massively increases the risk of SIDS and suffocation. Please remember the advice is to have all sleep in a room with an adult until 6 months. Are you going to bed at 7.30 every night? That’s fine if your happy with it but the other alternative is she sleeps down stairs. The wriggling around is normally but hard work.

It has been standard medical advice in the U.K. to not wean until ‘about 6 months’ for over 15 years. The EAT well study looked into effects of early weaning and allergies so you may want to look at that. The argument again early weaning is it may potential lead to life long gut issues, due to this and family issues I didn’t wean until 6 months. To be honest weaning is a PITA so I would wait until 6 months just for that reason alone.

Entertainment - songs, especially action songs, books, tummy time with toys, sensory blanket, narrator your entire life, walks.

Lots here to ask/answer. Babies are pests when they sleep! They are programmed to not sleep that deeply incase of danger, hence the wriggling etc. It’s also about learning how limbs work at that age and motor movements. Don’t use a sleepyhead overnight, they are not safe or designed for that. Is your little one sleeping through at 13weeks? If not then just roll with the fidgeting, they will be awake again soon. Are you putting them down in the same room as you? They should have all sleeps in the same room as you until 6 months.

Weaning really shouldn’t be done at 4 months! There is no rush for food, milk should be their main food until 6 months and then breast/formula until 1 year old. Early weaning causes potential digestion issues.

Play time, lots of cuddles and singing. I wouldn’t personally put kids tv on for one so small but that’s personal opinion only. I had a baby who would only nap on me so I spent lots of time sitting under them and reading/tv, they don’t have very long awake times at that age. Go out and about and let them see the world and talk to them all the time

@Thatwentbadly yep she sleeps with us, I was planning on keeping her in with us until she is 7 months old.
No I usually put her up at 7.30 with a monitor and regulary checking her and I tend to go bed about 9/9.30
I'm glad the wiggling about isn't just something she does! For a baby she's noisy 🤣 especially when she hits the bed with her hands! I think im generally a light sleeper with her and wake up to every sound she makes.

@shittingthreeeyedraven well her sleeping has changed slightly, she was going til about 3am, feeding then going til abroad 6.45/7 since the past few nights she has been waking between 1.30 & 3 and then awake again around 5.30! Im not sure if this was more down to a possible leap last week and she had her jabs Friday which i think threw her off as she's been abit grumpy lately.
The weaning I will leave til 6 months as advised by the hv I was just curious what other people done as I hear some people starting it from 4 months.

@Potterythrowdown that's one thing I am looking forward to is being able to do things in the day, I have contacted someone local who arranges buggy walks in my area so once that's allowed to go ahead were be attending that and hopefully meeting other mums!

Lullaby advice is ALL sleep should be with another adult in a room. The only way to say this is blunt, babies who die from SIDS don’t make a noise so a baby monitor and checking won’t reduce the risk of her from dying of SIDS. It’s obviously down to parental choice but this advice has significantly reduced the number of babies who have died from SIDS.

When you have a baby your sleep becomes lighter to help you be more responsive over night.