Baby sleeping

[1990fran]

Hi all
I have a 3 wk old baby and having some issues with sleeping, he only sleeps when being held or laying in pregnancy pillow thats wrapped around me after feeding, we have a chicco next to me he hates sleeping in it, we have a sleepy head doesnt like that either yes he will nod off for half hr or so and be crying again, i have put a blanket with my scent in the chicco, he has an ewan sheep, we have tried a dummy, swaddling, all the tricks in the book nothing works he only sleeps ON ME but this has resulted in me getting next to no sleep, I am aware and scared to death of sids, no idea what to do, do they grow out of this?! My mum said theyre to young for routine we do bath him.same time each night etc to try but nothing is working, pls help :( my first baby so all new to me haha x

Congratulations on your newborn.
Your DM is right, he is too young for a routine just yet. Read up on the third trimester firstly. Second of all, if that’s where he wants to sleep, let him, don’t stress about it. I have a 5 week old and we have a next 2 you as well. She has used it, maybe 3 times so far but that’s ok because they are still so young. I’m happy to co sleep and did loads of research and am confident we do it safely but I understand it’s not for everyone. My DS (he’s now 4) never spent a single minute in his own space for the first 3 months and I wish I had read up on the first trimester and spent less time worrying/stressing about it.

Similar situation. Im told that the transfer from my warmth to a cold (not freezing) crib is waking baby and resulting in her crying etc and wanting to be held again.

I've been told to wrap her in a blanket while being held. Then keep that blanket around her when moving to crib so that she stays warm.

Worth a try!

When not willing to attempt cosleeping in same bed, baby sleeping on me isn't an option as I need some sleep however broken or little in order to function

Solidarity! DD is 7 weeks old abd same story here. Def worth trying what the PP said about wrapping in a blanket. This sometimes works here to get her to stay in her basket for short periods. Don't forget that you might find your house warm but they're so brand new that any form of discomfort is awful for them and makes them need your comfort

My daughter is now 12 weeks and has only just started sleeping in her next to me crib.
Co sleeping was never an option for me, I didn't want to do it at all so we bought her a Moses basket so she'd feel less exposed. I'd nurse her to sleep but put a hot water bottle in her basket for ten minutes before I put her down. It worked a treat cos it was nice and warm when she went in and she didn't notice the transition. She's slept through the night since she was a few weeks old after doing this and she's now in her next to me crib.

Definitely warm the crib up with a hot water bottle, wrap the baby whilst in your arms if possible. I use a fleece blanket as a sheet as it’s warmer or a sheepskin.

Your baby is a typical new born. I would look into seeing if you can cosleep safely. Look up the safe 7 on the lullaby trust website.

Thanks all, the safe co sleeping im aware of we have the sleepyhead for this but he doesnt like to be in it, as soon as he is laid down anywhere but on me he cries:(

Hey my baby is also 3 weeks and it is hit and miss whether he will go down in the next to me. I think I've started to crack the puzzle a little though, as I find that when he's fed for longer, he's more likely to stay asleep once transferred. I now persevere with feeding and make sure he's had a good feed before attempting to put him down. If he does wake up (usually after 10 minutes) I pick him up and settle in my arms standing by crib and put down again and keep doing this until he stays asleep. I only do this at night though, he won't sleep in there at all during the day and sleeps on me.

That being said, they're so young that I wouldn't be surprised if none of these techniques work from one day to the next

I'm also terrified of cosleeping as I sleep so deeply that often my partner has to wake me to tell me he's awake and crying!

I put my baby in a sleeping bag to feed him, and then put him in the crib still in the sleeping bag so he’s not coming into contact with the cold cot.

If you do use a sleeping bag just make sure it has fastenings that make the neck hole small enough so his head can’t fit through it.

We have both a next to me and a Sleepyhead. My baby (11 weeks) spent get first 5 weeks sleeping on me or my husband. We've managed to move get into the Sleepyhead now but she definitely wasn't ready for it earlier. go with your instincts. Your doing a great job.