Child hates school

[Happycat1212]

Does anyone else have a child that hates school? It’s really getting me down, he begs every day for me not to send him repeatedly. He begs all day every day, he hates all aspects of it so not a simple thing of finding out why he doesn’t like it he doesn’t like any of it. He cries every day about it and I just don’t know what to do anymore. Ive spoken to the school but nothing changes

Since you mentioned Autism in one of your child, I would definitely check for ADD(or ADHD) or depression. I once read that ADHD and Autism tend to run together in the family. Not sure it’s correct though

Please please check in to the ‘not fine in school’ Facebook group. You will find help here.

Your son is giving all the signals of a cry for help. He’s not ok. You may need to make some major changes to set this right. Please please do so. I can’t tell you this strongly enough.

(From a mother of a child who wasn’t fine in school and who eventually tried to take her own life).

Mine did too. I withdrew him and will now home ed as he blossomed at home during school closures. It was like having a different child. Obviously v lucky financially to be able to do that.

I hated school from the minute I set foot in it aged 5 to the minute I left at 18 despite not being bullied and doing v well academically.

I will definitely check out the Facebook group, I will have to look into adhd I haven’t got much experience of it, but other than the hate of school I can’t see anything else that makes me think autism so adhd might be something else to consider

www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/11/191126121153.htm

I went to research if I read it correctly and here it is.

My kids/family have ADHD as well as Autism

My son went to school with a boy who hated going to school, getting him in was a real physical battle every day. Unfortunately his siblings started to act up too because of it.
When he went to high school he actually ran away from school a couple of times so ended up being at home. I can’t say educated at home because he wasn’t.
This lad was different in that he would speak a little to certain people in school.
This lad was sent to be assessed but dad stopped it and said there was ‘nothing wrong with him’.
Unfortunately he never got a diagnosis and now just lives at home with his parents. He doesn’t work so I’ve no idea what will become of him when they pass on.
So please push for help for him. His reaction to school isn’t normal and he deserves the help he needs.

Hey did your child finally settles my son is exactly behaving in the same way he’s 5 and in Y1? Be good to know sometimes I think I’m making the wrong decision my sending him everyday :(

@Mumof2kida

Hi this thread's not been posted on for a while so you probably won't get any responses.
I have a similar problem with my ds but I'm pretty sure it's social anxiety.. Also a little bit of selective mutism as he clams up around people who aren't direct family despite being social at home.

I think the key is trying not to make them feel bad about their shyness, everyone is unique but also to encourage them to do things outside of their comfort zone (e.g do something extracurricular to try and build some confidence).

If it's anxiety it's a confidence issue/fear that's making them uncomfortable.. When you think about it school forces you out of your comfort zone, you are put under pressure to socialise, make friends and that can be scary for a lot of kids, also learning is not always fun and can be harder for some kids than others.

I had similar issues when I was young and the main thing that fixed it was time and building confidence so I was no longer nervous around people.. Sadly that wasn't until after I had left school (which I hated) and found a job I'm good at with some lovely colleagues.