Potty trained too early??!!

[Anotherdayanotherpark2020]

Long term lurked but 1st actual post.....

My ds is under 2 and has potty trained himself..... bizarre I know. Mostly from copying his older brother i think and he's always hated a wet/ dirty nappy. He's been no bottoms in the house for about a month then wearing trousers and rid of nappies completely for 10 days.... He asks when he wants to go or takes himself. Also waking from naps dry after 50 mins sleep even though I've put a nappy on for sleeps. He then sees as soon as he wakes. 3 dry nights too.

Nursery don't train til the next room and say if he asks they'll give it a go but they want him in nappies til he asks them. AIBU to not want to do this?I'm sure he'll just go in the nappy because he's busy playing tbh?? And think it might confuse him at home?

That sounds very unreasonable from the nursery! He's already out of nappies.... They can't expect you to go back to putting them on. Also, they won't be training him, he is already trained! Be very clear with them that he is already trained and you won't be putting him back in nappies. And you don't expect them to 'train' him, but you do expect them to continue with his usual toilet routine. Although would pull ups be a compromise? But I don't think you need to compromise to be honest. Potty training before 2 is perfectly within the normal range. Anything after 18 months is fine! Most parents do wait until a bit older than this, but if a child is ready, cthen why wait?

Your post is a bit confused. What have you asked the nursery? They have said they don’t train at this age, but you’re not asking them to train. You’re saying he is already trained? And that they will take him to the loo if he asks, but want nappies in case he doesn’t? I’m not sure of the issue with that, just use pull ups.

Nope. I wouldn't be going along with that.

Children are individuals, not 'rooms' it's not effort to facilitate him using the toilet over changing a nappy. I coukd understand if he was constantly having accidents. But otherwise just not.

I was in pants, not nappies (day & might) before 15 months - no accidents & no regression.

Don't allow them to confuse him!

You need to be clear he is out of nappies and will tell them he needs to go, not that you expect them to train him.
Offer to send his potty with him if they don’t have toilet facilities in the baby room.

Yanbu. My DS trained at 20m. I wouldn’t have put him in nappies just because the nursery had a policy, sounds ridiculous!

They are nervous about waiting for him to ask I think- they usually prompt the children to go every hour or less and I'm pretty sure he'd refuse as he does if I ask him to "try" before a car journey( he has been on journeys up to an hour no accidents so I think he just hates being told....).

@Bluntness100

I'm worried it will confuse him....... He only wears nappies to bed at home.

They don't have the staff to child ratio all day to take a child to the bathroom in that room either so would put a nappy on at those times apparently. I'm wondering whether to ask for him to be moved to the next room early to make it easier all round.......

I would ask them what they think Ofsted would say about them forcing a toilet trained child to wear a nappy.

Update..... just sent in without any nappies as he screamed blue murder when I tried to put one on. Also won't wear one at night anymore. Unfortunately means he's waking early to use the potty which is a pain. He refused to go when they told him to but told them when he needed to go. A couple of small leaks when he left it too late to get to the loo in time but no proper accidents. So pleased he feels comfortable enough to tell the staff :-). Glad he is confident and verbal enough to tell them when he needs to go. Thankyou for your advice.x

Oh and ratios not mentioned again..... guessing they must take all the kids to the toilet together if they are on their own. No difference to one having a poo which needs sorting urgently I guess!