Mum guilt

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We have 3 year old twins and we can now send them to a nursery with the 30 hours childcare offer. I'm excited by the prospect and we've been looking forward to this for ages.

However, I feel so guilty! I've been a sahm since they were born and it's been hard. There were good bits but overall I would've preferred to work part time (just to get a break). It is the hardest "job" I've ever.

My husband doesn't feel this guilt at all and he thinks they'll have a lovely time in nursery. I think so too but I feel so guilty. Why do mothers feel so guilty? There is no really no need to. I feel so much happier thinking I'm going to work.

I don't know what I'm looking for in this post. I guess someone that's been in the same position and their kids are fine?

Of course he doesn’t feel guilty, he isn’t the one who’s been there doing the hard slog, while you’ve been covering the parenting. Presumably he’s been working? So it’s your life that is about to change (again) whilst his continues,

The guilt is normal, but once they settle they really do have a lovely time. I have a very nearly 1 year old, the other morning he was being really difficult. I dropped him off at nursery and about 40mins later got an update and picture on the app saying what a lovely morning they were having and how he was very happy!

I really believe that its a mothers instinct to keep children close, and I think thats where the guilt comes from. The phrase 'it takes a village... ' is really true, but in modern times we have to pay for that village.

Yes that was exactly my thoughts with the village.