to lift or not to lift?

[dosydot]

My DD1 2ys10 has been toilet trained during the day for about 4 months.
She has occasionally woken with a dry nappy in he morning and does not have a nappy for her rare nap times.
This week however she has decided she will not wear a nappy at night( very strong personality)and a soft mummy
each night she is wetting at about 10.30-11pm and ten waking to tell me. She is then dry for the reat of the night.
What are your thoughts of lifting on to the potty/toilet to prevent this accident? Will she learn to wake and go on the potty by herself?
should I just be stronger and make her wear the nappies?

I remember reading a big debate about this on another forum.
Lots of pros and cons.
I'd say do what suits you best, whatever makes life easiest.
Good luck, M x

I have always used the 'lifting'technique and it has worked with all 3 of mine.
I would put mine on the loo about 10 p.m.....I know it seems cruel especially if they have been in a deep sleep,but it can save on lots of washing and changing the bed in the middle of the night.
and eventually you cut back on drinks in the evening and you wont need to lift at all.

I was never a big fan of lifting. Lots of reasons - just never thought it was a good idea.

Until we realised that, like your dd, ours was weeing at about 10.30 and then staying dry for the rest of the night. It seemed sensible to at least try taking her to the toilet - although as she's older we couldn't lift her, we had to wake her and take her to the toilet.

We took her to the loo for about a week and a half, and then one night she took herself to the toilet and asked us not to take her again ... so we didn't, and she has been reliably dry for two or three months since then.

While I still think that lifting on the whole isn't a great idea, I now believe that when a child is almost there it can be helpful. So I would say give it a go - it worked for us when dd was ready to be dry, and it might be helpful for you too. You can always have a rethink if it starts to cause problems.

And please don't cut down on drinks. That can cause the bladder to readjust to a smaller size, so it isn't capable of holding as much urine as it should be. Avoiding fizzy drinks and blackcurrant drinks is a good idea because they stimulate the production of urine, but don't limit drinks in the hope that it will make her stay dry - it won't.

sorry....I meant drinks at night
mine have the usual childhood habit of asking for drinks at night to prolong bedtime!