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I thrived at being a baby mum, feel like I suck at being a toddler mum :(

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featheredcloud68 · 20/03/2021 19:00

I don't know what's wrong with me, I love my 2 year old to absolute bits, I'm so so besotted with her and proud of her however I always have mum guilt because I just don't look forward to our days together in the same way I did when she was a baby.

When she was a baby I loved it (even with sleep deprivation) and I always knew I was a good mummy. Now I just feel rubbish all the time and find these days so exhausting, I hate playing and being dragged to the floor to play make believe constantly, constantly being asked to do things, it can be so overwhelming. I don't know why I hate it so much and it makes me feel so guilty because I know she loves playing with me.

She's not a 'bad' kid even, she obviously has her super testing moments and tantrums but for the most part she's a good kid. I just don't know why I struggle so much :( maybe it would be different if it wasn't lockdown and I could do all the activities I used to do with her before.

I find myself feeling down most days, bored of life and then I cry so many times in the evenings when she's asleep and feel awful for not being better for her even though I know I do a better job than my brain tells me I do.

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Sansaplans · 20/03/2021 19:02

OP please be kind to yourself, nothing in what you have posted suggests bad mum at all. Do you have a partner? Does she go to nursery/childminder? For me I enjoy it so much more with a bit of balance.

RicStar · 20/03/2021 19:05

Op toddlers can be annoying thats why its called terrible twos. I do as much as I can of the stuff I like (playdoh, lego, reading stories) and as little of the more tedious stuff pretend play (patient and customer are both fairly easy) and pushing trucks around i will do none off. Its been a tough boring year, I am sure you are still a good mum. If the feeling down persists perhaps see your gp. Hopefully it will be better once things open up and you can have a more natural and social routine.

starpatch · 20/03/2021 19:08

Toddler stage is hard. I can't imagine how I would have coped without places to go!

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MonkeyPuddle · 20/03/2021 19:08

Having a two year old during a year long lockdown would be enough to break the mum of the year!

Two year olds are hard bloody work, cut yourself some slack.

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