Birthdays 2 days apart - WWYD

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I have 2 children a year apart whose birthdays are 2 days apart. They tend to like the same things and almost always get the same gifts at Xmas and birthdays. Anyway given the shit show of the last year and a number of other events which have hit them hard, i won’t go into detail, but they have had to deal with a lot more than just the virus and lockdown that has impacted them both mentally and emotionally. Given we’ve not paid for any holidays, days out, activities etc (we really stuck to the lockdown rules) and plan on continuing to restrict our movements even when things start opening up, we have decided to justify the cost for their birthdays, they will be 8 & 9.

My question is, should we give them both the gifts on the same day? I know it will be an early gift for one, but as soon as the first birthday dc opens theirs the other will know they will be getting one too. Or should we wait 2 days and make them watch their sibling enjoying their gift? I know there won’t be any upset about the 2nd child sharing the 1sts birthday, if anything the 1st child would be upset the other has to wait as they are very close.

Also the 1st birthday falls on a Sunday and the 2nd a Tuesday when they will be at school so won’t be able to play with their gift all day like the first birthday child.

WWYD?

Both on the first birthday. I’d get them both something small to then open on the second birthday.

The day in between? And a smaller gift on the other two days? Or both the first day

We have children 5 years apart with birthdays 4 days apart. I’d give them their presents on their actual birthdays. Fine to have a joint party or with one child the ‘lead’ for the party and the other child gets some of the spotlight too.

How about doing majority of presents on Sunday but keep 1 or 2 fir the Tuesday so both days are still special

I have my birthday 2 days apart from my sister. We are 2 years age diff. So clearly we often got duplicate presents from family, maybe in diff colours. My mum would figure this out, and I’d maybe open one matching present on her birthday, then we’d save one so she opened another matching one on my birthday. Sometimes we opened some on the middle day.
We always managed it so I had as many presents to open on my bday as she did.
But I don’t think we ever both had the same main present.
I think I wouldn’t have liked to open my main present early, and not have it on my birthday. Maybe if they have other things to open you could do the matching thing on the middle day?

Thanks. I think I will do both main presents on the Sunday. I may even do it on the Saturday so they both get them early and have the whole weekend to enjoy them. I have a few small bits for both of them that they can open in their actual birthdays. Plus will be doing their own cakes which I make for them, it’s one of the few places they differ so they get 2 completely different designs.

Saturday is a good idea for the big gift, then they both get the rest of their gifts on their respective birthdays.

I think Saturday is the best idea for the main gift, then open their other smaller gifts on their respective birthdays.

That sounds like a great plan! Hope they have lovely bdays. I always really loved having our birthdays close together, and these days (when it is non pandemic-y) we tend to all meet up as families with our mum and dad for our birthday time, maybe hire a cottage for a long weekend or try and have a close-to-birthday get together.