Will they take him away?

[Mylittlesandwich]

I still suffer with anxiety after DS was born. I'm getting CBT and I'm on medication.

DS is 15 months and over that time he's had 3 accidents. Once he fell off the bed and was completely unharmed. Once he fell off DHs shoulders and was completely unharmed but we did visit A&E. Today he has launched himself across the bed and hit his teeth off the bedside table. He's pushed his tooth up into his gum and burst his lip. The dentist has fitted us in as a standby emergency this afternoon.

I'm worried that as he keeps having these accidents they'll think I'm not a fit mum and they'll take him away. I'm starting to wonder if they wouldn't be right. I clearly can't keep him safe.

He’s a toddler OP - he sounds like he’s a happy healthy child who enjoys exploring. Trips to AnE are par for the course. Every child in Britain would be in care if this were evidence of bad parenting.

Talk to your CBT therapist about distorted thinking - one of the egs above is about your husband not you, and yet you are making it your responsibility.

@partyatthepalace

He’s a toddler OP - he sounds like he’s a happy healthy child who enjoys exploring. Trips to AnE are par for the course. Every child in Britain would be in care if this were evidence of bad parenting.

Talk to your CBT therapist about distorted thinking - one of the egs above is about your husband not you, and yet you are making it your responsibility.

Thanks, yes I know. We're working on it. I go through phases of being able to see things clearly and properly so I think the CBT is working. Then something happens like yesterday and I'm right back to my old ways.

My DD visited A&E three times in two months with head injuries when she was a toddler, before breaking her arm a few months later.
We did have a health visitor come and see us, but there was never any issue. She was just a child with no sense of danger. Her sister was even worse, but somehow has never needed medical attention. She used to collect her school accident forms.

Many children have a lot of accidents. Many unpreventable without wrapping them in cotton wool. If it was drinking bleach or playing with knives they would have concerns.

He's a toddler. They do these things all the time. Eventually you develop crystal ball abilities, and you can 'see' risks. If they are spinning round near a sharp edge, you steer them away. Running around with a pencil in their mouth, you take it away. Stair gates, child proof locks, you do what you can and accept the trips and falls as part of life. Didn't foresee my 2yo pulling a chair over to the window sill and climbing onto it and trying the window. Luckily locked and ground floor, but....!

My DD 2 had many injuries requiring trips to the hospital to get her patched up. Mostly head injuries. And I I am a social worker! They were all easily explained and rational. It is unexplained injuries or ones where the injury doesn't match what is said happened that are of concern.

Thank you everyone. We did get corner protectors and little things to stop doors slamming on fingers etc but he just pulls the blooming things right off as soon as he sees them. I have considered supergluing them on...

My 11 month old decided to launch himself off the sofa yesterday as if he were superman. Hes shown us he can get off higher surfaces well and had been doing safely for a while. Toddlers do unpredictable stuff.

People harming their kids, dont generally take them to A and E. Your worrying for nothing, all kids get into scrapes.

Doubt that would even be grounds for referral to SS tbh.

We used to say that my friend's DS should have a loyalty card for A&E. Some children are just magnets for accidents!