3 and a half year old daughter constantly running away

[Stephplus2]

Hi, would love some advice.

My 3 and a half year old daughter won't hold my hand, won't be carried and won't walk. She constantly runs off, it's like I have no control over this, when she's with grandparents ect she's fine. I am constantly running after her, it's so difficult on school runs ect.

Any advice?

Thanks

Pushchair or reins? You need to keep her safe and it doesn't matter how you do that. How come she behaves with gp? What do they do differently that works?

I'd get the buggy out. If she starts messing around she goes in the buggy. She will soon get the idea

I have no idea why she behaves with her grandparents, most kids do.

I think I will have to unfortunately.

Thanks

Push chair or reins, no exception, no compromise. She needs to learn that you are in charge. You simply can't allow a 3 year old to run away from you.

I have a 3 year old like this. We use a little life back pack with reins.

Constantly give her things to run to.

For example: Run to the red car. Just as you're approaching the red car, give her the next target, for example "run to the lampost". Or the corner. Or that patch of grass. Or whatever.

Be aware if your language so that she understands more specific instructions. For example move from "run to..." to "wait for me at..." to "stop at..." and so on. Then she gets her freedoms but in a safe way so she understands the rules and boundaries.

All of my school runs have forever been divided into stop points for the whole route, where the children run to and wait for me to catch up.

Reins. No discussion or she will end up under a car. She has discovered that it gets a reaction and attention and unfortunately this a behaviour you cannot ignore, so it becomes self perpetuating.