DD is nearly 2.5 and suddenly I'm really struggling with her behaviour. She's just found her independence... just looking for some tips from anyone who's been there at this age! Would love some ideas for reward charts especially how to deal with the naughty stuff.
Main problems are; ignoring me for basic things like let's go and change nappy, refusal to do things that need some cooperation like brush teeth, hitting/biting when getting in a hyper state and, climbing on dangerous stuff and refusing to get down. But in general just ignoring me then it turns into a game where I'm bargaining or shouting and she's just laughing...
After reading a bit online I've tried more general things like letting the small stuff go so I'm not 'Mrs no', so giving her a few minutes of faffing when I've said let's do 'x' before I start insisting, using more positive language about what we should do and trying to chill out a bit and letting her do some climbing etc because let's face it she's missing out on all the usual stuff like soft play. These things have helped avoid 50000 issues per day but were still having plenty, when the total refusal/ignoring turns into a war. I've tried the threat of confiscating a toy which I'm aware is quite negative and it's stopped working now anyway. Today she took the toy herself and put it in 'the drawer' then carried on ignoring me....!
I'm thinking of doing very basic a reward chart with stickers for the tasks that become a war like teeth, dressing, etc. I think she'll understand something this basic.
But what about the bad behaviour, like when she's ignoring me, I've seen charts where they build up points/ lose them for naughty stuff but I'm not sure if this is too complex for her just yet and she'll forget even if it's daily. If not a chart, are there any tips other than toy confiscation? I know she wouldn't stay on a naughty step....!