My mother is obsessed with toilet training dd (22 months) and i think she's kinda ready but i don't know and i don't want to push her. my dd, that it. not my mother, who i would often cheerfully see off the nearest cliff.

[AitchTwoOh]

so dd will occasionally use her potty for poo and piss etc, cue much cheering and happiness.

she's just as likely to take a wazz on the floor, though. although not on the carpet, oddly, and she will prefer to aim into a jigsaw box or something if the potty isn't within easy reach. likewise the occasional poo, basically it's all greeted with a delighted 'oh no mummy, poo poo/pee pee' . also she doesn't mind sitting on the loo but rarely does anything although apparently at grandma's she's fine with it and uses it well. mind you, our loo is fancy and modern and bloody uncomfortable...

i'm not bothered about the pissing on the floor, she doesn't do it very often and i know that she can hold it in, but i think i just need to encourage her to do it in the potty rather than wait for a nappy to go on which i think is what she's doiing at the mo.

what should i do? she has a few pairs of pants that she likes and never pees in but i worry a bit that she might get into the habit of holding in so i put a nappy on. she's only a wee girl, you know? i don't like having her in nappies all the time, it's nice for her to have her bum out in the fresh air i think.

so what next? do we just carry on? do i start giving her a chocolate button or some such when she gets to the potty? thanks.

I think you need to branch out, aitch.

Baby Led Potty Training.

Seriously, at just past 2, dd1 was physically ready (good control) and intellectually ready (understood about where to go, removing knickers etc etc) but she wasn't emotionally ready to deal with the (inevitable) accidents and got really upset.

We then had to soft pedal and she was nearly 3 before she was happy to ditch the nappies. She was brilliant, no accidents and hasn't looked back.

I would get some Big Girls' Pants, show them to her, and then wait til she asks to use them no matter how long it takes.

Of course, you may end up like us with a nearly-3-year-old in nappies and your mother will never speak to you again

she does like wearing her pants, she asks to put them on (her and teddy in matching pairs ). in a way that's what's bothering me, i don't want her to wear them and hold in pee, if she's going to wear them i need her to go to the loo, iykwim? at the moment i think they're a dress-up toy.

she has only once peed with trousers on (when i rather uselessly forgot to take a nappy to the swimming pool, left her with a button-through vest and trousers on and then ABOUT TWO HOURS AFTER WE GOT HOME the poor child peed. what a rubbish parent i am, lol. she didn't seem overly bothered, but then i was apologising A Lot.

Sorry, have read your OP properly now and I see she already "does" pants.

She's very young really. I think wearing knickers, then waiting for the nappy before letting go is a good way of easing into it. As long as you don't keep her hanging on for hours as you say.

I know people have potty-trained by getting the child to sit on the potty with a nappy on, then putting the nappy in the potty and getting them to wee on that, then just the potty. Haven't done it myself though.

dd1, as I said, was older so all we had to do was remark casually that "ballet dancers wear pants" and bingo.

i think the arrival of a new baby cousin is making her want to be more grown up, iykwim? that and my bloody mother.

so no chocolate drops, then? she does, as i say, already pee and poo in the potty, it's just that she doesn't always want to be sitting down when there is playing to be done. i agree, she is young, but she's talking about nappies and pants all the time and i don't really know what to make of it. she's loving changing her 'baby teddy's' nappy a lot, treating it like a baby etc, in contrast to her other larger teddy who wears pants and plays more interesting games. lol, i'm making her sound like a loon.

Aaaah, that's lovely. dd1 has loads of babies too - they drive their own cars to the shop but still need their nappies changed.

She sounds keen. I still wouldn't push her though. Am squeamish about rewards but that's just me.

Would it kill you with impatience to just carry on, ie with no pressure but ecstatic singing and dancing when she gets it right?

Aitch, I know nothing about potty training yet - but the title gave me a good giggle!!! Thank you!

Agree on the baby led potty training.

And remember, however little we know the real you, you are one hell of an instinctive mother. I'd trust your instincts with what is best, tbh.

I have a 20 month mindee who decided herself (very much babyled training) to use the potty, with nothing on will happliy use the potty every time, with pants on will sometimes get there on time with trousers, no way, But if she has a pull up on (a type of nappy I usually hat, as normally they dont see the difference between them and normal nappies) she asks everytime and will be dry and clean all day!!!! So at the moment we are going with the pull up and trousers.

I wonder if as we go out and about alot, and although we take the potty everywhere (have potty will travel sort of person ) she feels more confidant with it on.

Anyway waffling here, but I very much think, go with what she feels comfortable, she is very young. Maybe at home have no pants and let her run around like that with a potty nearby.

why do i keep opening brackets and forgetting to close them?))

Aitch one of the things my Mindees love as a treat id to be able to wash their hands on their own after, I have a metsl veg rack next to the potty , in it is a bowl, soap dispenser and such with the towel hanging on the side, Little mindee LOVES to be able to wash her hands after.

good point. we have a step thing to get to the sink but i keep forgetting to use it. in fact i'm quite rubbish at getting her to wash her hands altogether.

My daughter is 20 months and for the past month has been telling us wen she is a bout to do toilet and brings us her potty i have been tryin at her nappy changes and sittin her on potty with a book and this seams to be working i wont be letting her out of nappys till after christmas but my ideas seamed to have worked maybe you should try this and see if it works for you . my mother is aslo obsesed with me potty training her which drives me mad but i think she will be ready wen shes ready i also award my daughter witha bit of fruit or sweetie wen she has done toilet in her potty

my daughter hates sitting on toilet . my midwife did sugest havin more than 1 potty like one upstairs in toilet and her room and 1 in livin room and kitchen .

maybe i have rabled on to much.

No advice sorry but lol at title

thanks sheena, our mothers obviously have a lot in common. she even bought her 'wet-feel' nappies the other day..
i think i'm goinig to forget all about it until christmas.

lol at the title