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It shouldn't be this hard

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OhToBeASeahorse · 12/03/2021 10:58

DS is a 2.5 year old whirlwind. Awake at 5.30 most mornings, has lost a tooth and has a scar on his face through accidents. He is frustrating but glorious.

DD is 5 months. Sleeping is atrocious. Will only nap in the sling and only cosleeps. She is on me literally 24/7. Trying to keep her asleep whilst also playing with DS is becoming harder and harder.
I'm a walking zombie. DS is in childcare today. If I sit down she wakes up. So I'm standing in my living room. I'm knackered, I barely sit down. Baby has feeding issues so breastfeeding is not enjoyable and she has possible allergies so no dairy or egg for me atm.
Currently I have to go to bed with her at 7, I rush around like a mad thing to get ready for bed because when she is napping I can't do anything.

I feel like I'm doing this all wrong. It shouldn't be this hard.

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mummof1 · 12/03/2021 14:21

It will get better. My girl was hard until around 4 years old. Shes 9 now and I dont remember any of the hard times. Hope it gets better for you x

Thesearmsofmine · 12/03/2021 14:24

It gets better, I had two under two with no childcare and it was hard work but they got older, more independent and it got easier. If breastfeeding isn’t working for you, could you get some support, pump or use formula?

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OhToBeASeahorse · 12/03/2021 15:06

I hated pumping. I could go to ff but - I know this is irrational- I bf DS for 18 months and I'd feel so guilty

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Twizbe · 12/03/2021 15:11

I have the same age gap. It's hard, really hard.

It does get easier, then harder again but you need your partner's (or other support person's) help here.

At the weekends he needs to take the kids for a couple of hours while you nap. Baby is old enough now to go a couple of hours between feeds.

He needs to step up on the home front.

When he's home, he needs to 100% focus on toddler so you can focus on you and baby.

It's hard, but it does get better

Beetlewing · 12/03/2021 17:03

I remember those times, I'm sorry for you! Mine are 8 and 10 now and are so sweet individually and when they are together. It does get better. You are tired but you are sowing the seeds for close bonded siblings who will bring you unbelievable joy I promise x

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