When, and how, did you open the sex/relationships conversations with your DS?

[Meggymoo777]

Just the above - thinking my time may be coming to begin talking with DS and just wondering how others have had open successful conversations around the topics of sex, relationships, bodily autonomy, consent etc and what age your boys (or girls) were!

Thanks in advance!

I started talking about it in a more detailed way in the last year of primary school.
Partly because they got phones then as did their peers and also they started more detailed sex education lessons at school.

The tea video is great for explaining consent.

vimeo.com/128105683

My pair are a few years older now and we have more grown up conversations about consent, personal safety, sexual attraction etc. They roll their eyes a bit but they know that it is something I think is important.

DS asked me when he was at the end of year 4. I asked him if he wanted to know as he couldn’t unknow and he did so I told him the facts, that both parties had to agree to it and that it didn’t hurt (as he asked this). It helped that we were in the car and we didn’t have to look at each other 😂.

DS is 13 and it is something that we have certainly talked about for a good couple of years now. No big serious conversations, just something that comes up now and then, and is discussed the same as any other conversation.