Hey just looking for some advice.
My 7 year old DD recently has a falling out with her friend who is 9. This girl approached my DD yesterday on the stairs at school and began hitting her. My daughter said stop hitting me multiply times before hitting her back pretty hard. She then found a teacher and told them. Neither child got in trouble for this.
I've always taught my kids that it is wrong to lift there hands to others first because they can use there words but if hit by someone to defend themselves until they can get out of that situation and tell an adult.
I told this to my Gran today who expressed that she disagrees with me as it's never right to hit anyone even if they hit first. I find her response odd because I grew up in a household with domestic abuse and if my mother hadn't fought back and got out the house at times I honestly think my Father could of done some serious damage.
I know these two fighting situations are different but I think teaching my kids this early could help them in the long run. I also talk to my kids about healthy relationships and what is acceptable/unacceptable behaviour. Not just towards them but them to others too.
What do you teach your children when it comes to hitting/bullying?