Hi!
I was thinking about my daughter, she's 1 and a half, I was thinking about siblings and age gaps and hoped I could get some experiences/opinions about this.
Due to going back to university, we won't be able to have a baby for another 4.5 years. (Degree + 2yr masters). Me and my partner want more children and are prepared to wait to make sure we do what's best for our daughter. However, I'm worried the longer I leave it, the more distance there will be between her and her sibling/s.
I then would really like to either have another or try fostering, something I have been wanting to do since I was a teenager. I'm aware a foster child isn't a "makeshift sibling" however it seems more sensible to do fostering before I have another child. I also have considered fostering to adopt with young siblings.
More background, I'm aware people on mumsnet can be pro-planet and want to lay my stance as:
Me and my partner are considering adoption for LO 2/3. You know, the whole 2 adults, 2 children thing. But adoption wouldn't harm the planet and it would certainly give us the chance to give all our love to a child who may not be recieving it, which brings us to.. ages.
By the time all the baby/adoption/fostering madness kicks off, my LG will be atleast 5, possibly 6. I could have another earlier but we would struggle financially and I could never do that to my daughter.
Basically my question (with the bit of background) is, is 6 years a good/bad age gap? Would it be ideal for fostering (under 5s) as in my county, birth children have to be the oldest. Should I consider taking the plunge and doing it earlier, which could be affordable if we really tried but would put stress on us as a family? Or should I wait until she's even older so she can cope better?
Yes, I'm also aware I'm overthinking this. 