Grooming

[Blinkyboy]

My sister has just turned 16. There is a man who has just turned 31 living with us, and they have been flirting since she was barely 14. I have expressed my digust and apparently I need to "fuck off and forget about it".Just last night someone made a joke "she just needs to give him a blowjob" - talking about a 16 y/o girl and 31 year old man - so it's not just me "overthinking" as my mum keeps saying. The rest of my family really like the man. I'm angry and horrified that my own mother has allowed her child to be (by the dictionary definition) groomed. I need someone to tell me I'm wrong so I cna sleep at night and I didn't know where else to go :( any tips/advice would be appreicated

Why is he living with you? He sounds disgusting.

I agree with you. You are definetley not overthinking it. 15 years age gap is quite common but 100% not when a 16 year old is involved! She may legally be an adult but when I was 16 I was still basically a child with so much more to learn. She may be liking the attention of the older man in the household but you're mother should know better, no way would I allow that under my roof with my dd.

Please call social services.

I would speak to the NSPCC to get some advice. Talking to social services can feel like a huge step, but the NSPCC can advise and also escalate to social services if needed.

Who is this man to you?

If this has been brewing for 2 years and now that your sister is at the legal age of consent I would be very very worried. If this man has indeed spent 2 years grooming her, he may well have been doing it under the guise of getting her consent for sex so he can always say that she willingly agreed. Even if she were to willingly agree, it likely that she can’t see nor comprehend that she has been groomed to believe this in the first place.

Do you know your sisters thoughts on the situation?

You can also call the safeguarding lead at your sister’s school.