Sleep Help!!!

[Gabriella93]

Help please! I have a 2 month baby boy who from about 2 - 6 weeks old would just scream all day, I figured he was overtired so I started timing his wake windows and trying to get him to sleep every hour or so. I wear him in the baby carrier for this, since then he has stopped screaming all day (could be coincidence) but will still cry a lot before every nap. Is this normal or should I just give up and let him sleep when he wants? He's never been a sleepy baby who can just fall asleep though so I'm worried he will get overtired, im so confused about what to do 🤦‍♀️

@Gabriella93

Your baby may have colic ,but I am not sure .

Best thing to do is have a chat with your midwife or Health vistor about your concerns(worries) about your baby.

A lot of first time mothers struggle or feel confused about what's the right thing to do.

It is often a case of try and error, finding out different ways, to which one will be effective work for you and your baby.

Don't struggle on your own, don't feel like a failure that you do not know everything !

Nobody is a expert bringing up a children ,especially the first time.

You sound like a good enough mum,
Make sure you get enough plenty of support .

I hope you have good family members /or members of your partner family to help you, support you?

It must be particularly isolating hard with these lockdowns going on too.

Is there any mother and baby groups networks on internet?

Have you got any friends/family members with baby's/or young children to talk to?

Such as support bubbles?

Thank god, this latest lockdown will come to end soon.

And the weather is getting better makes such a difference in how everybody feels.

These lockdowns have felt like being under house arrest /or prison at time,(well latest lockdown has felt like this.

Take care x

ps I can not understand why not more people have not replied to your post thread.
As your problem is quite a common issue that new parents/first time parents experience.

I used the Huckleberry app to track my baby’s sleep - it gives you sweet spots when to try to put them down a nap, really helped in the early days.

Sounds pretty normal though - just keep doing what you’re doing, sounds like you’re doing a great job!

I’m a FTM and realised a lot of the tears in the early weeks were down to tiredness and I didn’t realise although I still think two months is early for a clear pattern to be showing just yet...mine has not long turned four months and is now like clockwork in terms of falling asleep after two hours however just before this (probably 10-15 minutes) is still when most of the crying occurs! I find it a really distressed cry compared to others as well, not sure if it’s the case for you? Anyway it’s all new to me too so not sure if it’s normal either but if it makes you feel any better, you’re not alone with the tired crying baby!!

@thosetalesofunexpected thank you so much for your reply! I think he does have colic and we have tired colic calm and infacol but neither help too much. I've spoken to the HV but she just said its normal and wasn't much help. It's a strange one because 80% of the time he's happy enough, it's just getting to sleep is a problem.

Unfortunately all my family live hours away so I dont have any support at the moment which is really tough but as you said hopefully when the lockdown ends I can see them.

Thank you again for your kind words xx

@GBA123 that's what I figured as well, he would go hours without sleeping which is why I started timing it to try and get him to sleep, he will only fall asleep in the baby sling but that's after 10 - 15 minutes of crying. I've tried feeding to sleep, just laying him down and gently rocking in my arms but he just won't sleep at all. The cry is a very distressed one it's horrible, it sounds like he is in pain but I know he's tired, his eyes are all red and he's yawning and rubbing his face. I dont know where I'm going wrong to be honest x

@Vicky1989x Thank you xx I've been using the huckleberry app and sometimes he does go to sleep really nicely and then other times he screams. I'll keep persevering though xxx

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