So we split up 1yr ago because he shouted at me and my DS all the time. He has a temper and OCD and if we dared to leave something in the wrong place he would have a fit. I finally managed to kick him out and felt a huge relief but I'm struggling on my own. He's great with housework (due to OCD) and I guess over time he did a lot more than me in the house and I struggled when I was on my own.
I sold my house recently but the chain broke down for the one I was buying so I had no where to live. He said I could stay at his (we have a DD together and already co parent). So I've stayed for a few weeks and it's been really enjoyable. Life has been easy here compared to the past year due to my mental and physical load reducing so much. Our DD loves having us together again and my DS comes over and stays and it's working ok so far.
His temper is still there as he shouts at our DD sometimes. I've suggested anger management but typical abuser style he's turned it back to me and said I'm the one who needs anger management. Then lists times when I've reacted to him and his shouty behaviour. Anyhow, for the sake of our DD I was thinking that when I get my new place, it will have enough bedrooms for him to have his own and he might agree to co parenting and living together. I don't want to get back with him because I just can't see him as attractive after suffering from his constant shouting for several years, but equally if we could be friends and house share while our DD is young, maybe that could work?
Has anyone else managed to co parent in the same house but not be romantically involved?