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Fighting for visitation

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ellie09 · 06/03/2021 23:35

Hi. Just wanting some thoughts on this.

I have a 4 year old boy with my ex husband. Our son is currently being assessed for autism and we split when he was 2 years old.

At the start, he had him one night and the weekend fortnightly, a Wednesday night overnight and Thursday during the day (when not at nursery etc). He will mind him from around 3pm-6pm on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday while I am in work as I work 45 hours per week in a pretty intense financial job.

He was living with his mother at the time, and after his mother kept being verbally and physically abusive towards me in front of our son, I cut off overnight visitation until he found alternative living arrangements as I didn't want to collect our son from the house.

He began living with his girlfriend, and Wednesday overnights started again but not weekends. He says that he feels I don't "spend quality time" with our son so he should be with me every weekend, all weekend.

I work Monday to Friday, 45 hours and my entire weekend is also spent with my son. I am physically and mentally drained due to the additional needs a SEN child has.

We are due to go to court as well can't agree.

I am arguing that the original arrangements should be reinstated as our child does not have an opportunity to spend the day with him that isn't broken up with nursery etc. All his quality time where trips out, events can be planned are with me.

Anyone any experience how this pans out in court or what is taken into consideration?

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Lolalovesmarmite · 07/03/2021 07:09

Well how much awake time do you spend with your son during the week? To be honest, it doesn’t sound like an awful lot.

triceratops12 · 07/03/2021 07:12

Just so I'm clear - he has him three evenings a week and every other weekend? That sounds reasonable to me, sorry.

ellie09 · 07/03/2021 08:45

I see my child every single day. Every morning except a Thursday and everything evening except Wednesday. He's with me every weekend and does not see his dad at any time during the weekend

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Thatwentbadly · 07/03/2021 10:12

What time does he go to bed? Honestly I can’t imagine you spend much quality time with him before school, I’m assuming it’s get ready quickly and then drop off at school or breakfast club. Then what time does he go to bed? I would write down how much quality time you actually spend with him.

The courts can’t force his father to have him more.

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