Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Divorce/Equity

2 replies

Rosie128 · 06/03/2021 20:21

Can anyone offer me advice regarding sharing the equity from the family home when the husband is mentally disabled but I am bringing up our child and working full time? My husband wants a 50/50 split. We have been married for six years but separated for two. A brain operation has caused him to have memory problems and issues with anger and aggression towards our young child. The situation was making me ill and went to stay with his father until he felt he could return to family life. He did this willingly and is happy there. He is now divorcing me saying I do not care about him. My mortgage affordability means I will only be able to afford a small starter home in a not so nice area. He receives just over £1000 a month in benefits. My solicitor says my sons needs come first. Sadly his father does not seem to mind wether he has contact with his son or not. He keeps threatening me with court and says he would win as he is disabled. Should I agree to give him half the equity and take on a big mortgage creating financial uncertainty for mine and our sons future or should I ask for a 40/60 split? He is not interested in hobbies or going out and enjoys spending his days watching television. I am not sure what he would do with a lump sum and since his illness he has been reckless with money investing in scams and buying expensive and unnecessary items

OP posts:
Troubledmummy3 · 07/03/2021 01:02

I would genuinely advise speaking to a solicitor and explaining the entire situation...because if he’s threatening to use his disability for pity points you need to focus on the facts and not let him get under your skin...good luck but be careful with how much you use solicitors else you will have even less to buy an new place for you and your son x

Tankflybosswalkjam · 07/03/2021 01:06

He’s talking shit. Your child’s needs are prioritised and seeing as he will be with you not him, then that’s where the money is weighted too. You also don’t have an obligation to spousal maintenance and he has his benefits to live on. But more than anything you need to get in front of a family law solicitor and get them to sort this.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page