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Made rod for my own back or don't worry about it? 😴

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TurquoiseKiss · 05/03/2021 08:17

My almost 10 month old sleeps great at night, put him in his cot after his bath/bottle/cuddle and he'll drift off himself between 7.30-7.45pm. Sleeps until 7am. Didn't do any sleep training, discovered he could do this by accident when he was 5 months-ish and I had to answer the doorbell as I was putting him to bed one night, put him down in the cot awake and by the time I'd come back he was asleep.

However his day time naps have always been ON myself or DH. He sleeps 9.30-10.30am and 2.30-3.30pm. We have tried putting him down the way we do at night, drowsy - he's a lot more wired/energetic; or putting him down asleep and he wakes after 20 min in a bad mood/still knackered that one of us will settle him back on us. We can get him off to sleep on us in 5-10 mins with the help of his dummy.

With the year its been we haven't exactly had to be many places! So it hasn't bothered us that whoever he is sleeping on is pinned to the sofa
for 2 x 1 hour slots each day. Especially as we feel very lucky he sleeps well at night. If it's me I'll read a few pages of my book/scroll through Mumsnet! I find it very relaxing.

Have we been silly to carry on like this? He's our only child so I feel if we had others we'd have less time to sit down/not use the time he is napping for chores etc. He's starting nursery in 4 weeks time when he'll be almost 11 months so will obviously need to learn how to nap there on the days he is in. But I feel if we start day time sleep training at home it might be too many changes in a short space of time?

Sorry this was longer than I intended it to be!

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VegetarianDeathCult · 05/03/2021 08:20

I wouldn’t worry. DS napped on me, but when he started at a childminder at 9 months, he napped straightaway in a cot for her!

ImInACage · 05/03/2021 08:21

I wouldn't worry too much. We have lots of babies who nap like that in my nursery. We transition them slowly to napping in a cot over time and have them fall asleep on us before we gently transfer them to a cot. It is always very helpful to us when parents support this by doing the same at home, but it is by no means necessary. They learn that this is what I do at home and this is what I do at nursery. If you're happy, enjoy the sleepy cuddles.

DudeistPriest · 05/03/2021 08:22

If he is starting nursery and has a naptime there I would start working on putting him down to nap now. I don't think you were silly to have him nap on you though, if it worked for you so far. You enjoyed the cuddles and that's fine.

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LikeTheOceansWeRise · 05/03/2021 13:17

I'm in the same position! LO is also 10 months, all naps are on me and she's starting nursery next month. I've been quite anxious about how she'll nap at nursery but attempts to get her to nap in the cot have been met with HOURS of tears. It's just not happening!

No advice really but am right here with you (nap trapped right now in fact!)

Cauliflower82 · 05/03/2021 13:20

I could have written this ☺️

LockdownIsDragging · 05/03/2021 13:28

If you are happy with it then it isn’t a problem and like you say nighttime is sorted. I have to say I really appreciated the nap times and wanted to use them to get things done. Will he fall asleep if you take him for a walk in the buggy? I know mine would at this age and then I would wheel the buggy into the house and leave them to it.

mindutopia · 05/03/2021 13:36

It will be fine. You're lucky he sleeps so well at night. Both of mine always had all their naps on me at that age and youngest was bf to sleep. They both adjusted to nursery and sleeping in a cot at nursery just fine. It was no big deal at all. Carry on doing whatever works and enjoy some downtime. It's actually much more exhausting when they no longer nap and you don't get to have that time when you're forced to sit down every day.

Easterbunnygettingready · 05/03/2021 13:38

Imo enjoy the next 4 weeks!!
My ds napped in his buggy but slept 12 hours every night from 9 months..

Floopyandtired · 05/03/2021 14:32

Don’t worry about it! My little boy was the same, only ever napped on me at home but at nursery did 2 hours in the cot no bother.

TurquoiseKiss · 08/03/2021 07:40

Thanks so much everybody for responding! Nice to read there are lots of other parents out there who are just enjoying the cuddles.

@LockdownIsDragging - yes he sleeps well in the buggy so sometimes I'll use the times he goes down for a sleep to go out somewhere with the buggy. As soon as we get home though he'll wake within a few mins, it's like he'll only stay asleep in the buggy while it's moving outdoors.

@LikeTheOceansWeRise - hope your DD settles in well at nursery! We have some settling in sessions happening first week of April then if all goes well DS is due to start in mid-April. How about you?

Thank you again everyone, have a great week x

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