Me and my partner have decided to end things after 6 years together. We have 3 children together and got engaged almost 3 years ago.
Something that has always bothered me is not having the same last name as my children. Obviously after we were engaged it was something that would happen eventually but obviously now we’re not together anymore it won’t ever happen.
I know some people it might not bother but I’ve always been upset by the fact and I’m genuinely devastated that i will never have the same last name as them now. I have been thinking about asking my ex to double barrel their names but in all honesty I never done it before because our names just don’t sound right together. My name is pretty long and they both begin with the same letter, it just is a bit of a mouthful and I feel quite selfish doing that to them just for my sake 🙈 I have even thought about changing my last name to my late mums maiden name but I feel like my dad would be quite upset by that too 🤷🏼♀️ They weren’t together anymore but my mum still had his last name as didn’t want a different one to mine and my siblings (probably where I get the need from!)
It wouldn’t be an option to take my ex’s last name either incase anyone suggests that, and I wouldn’t ever completely change my children’s name, wouldn’t be fair on them or their dad.
I know this is me probably just being selfish and sad but I’m finding it hard to get past. Has anyone dealt with similar or are able to give me any advice?