Sleeping through???

[marti2]

My ds is almost 8 months and has never slept through the night, not only never slept through he rarely sleeps for more than 2 hours at a time and then wakes up for the day from 5am ish.

Please any advice?! I'm at my wits end, I just need some sleep 😩

Two words: Sleep training.

Google the various methods (there are many, all varying in intensity) and see which feels right for you.

It’s really normal to wake that frequently (sadly!) what time does he go to bed? You might feel better if you can shift his sleep so he’s getting up later?
I found “let’s talk about your new family’s sleep” by lyndsey hookway really helpful

@ManicPixie thank you, I'll definitely have a look into it!

@CrazyKitkatLady it's so hard isn't it, wouldn't it be lovely if they just slept like us! he was going to bed at about 6:30 so I moved it to 7:30 about 2 weeks ago but unfortunately it's made no difference to the time he wakes up 🙄 thank you, I'll have a look 😊

My daughter is 15mo and has never slept through, wakes every 75 mins and is EBF so I have to settle her whilst DH snores and I plan his murder.

Do they have a dummy they expect you to put back in? If could try and wean the dummy away? It’s a few nights of hardship but it does pass.
How about their naps do they need reducing or being moved to one big nap?
It’s so hard......I’m still waiting for my 3 old to sleep through without needing to see us. He does the odd night but it’s not consistent.
The other suggestion is giving them a banana and yogurt at story time to make sure they are full?
Good luck

I have one exactly the same age, he wakes every 2 hours too. He tries to wake up for the day at 5am but I feed him back to sleep which he will do as long as I sit up and let him stay latched on. Lying down won’t cut it apparently. So I am sat up feeding from 5am-6.30am. I know it’s tiring but it’s what they’re programmed to do and it won’t be forever!
My first baby starting sleeping through at about 2.5 years

Completely normal. Durham uni has done extensive research into sleep and have a parent friendly website which looks at things like sleep training.

It’s normal for a child to need you over night but to the age of 7 - although by then it obviously wouldn’t be every night or multiple times a night.

My 11 month old doesn't sleep through the night. She isn't too bad when I co-sleep with her. Do you bf or ff? I've heard anecdotally that sometimes sleep improves if you stop feeding at night. Sleep training is an option, but I am not going down that route at present as things are manageable and I think I'd find it quite stressful, not so much the crying but everything I've read has strict routines, ways of getting them to sleep etc.

Following as I have an 8 month old who I desperately want to sleep better at night. He currently goes to sleep in his own cot in his room around 8-9pm then wakes up several times before I give in and bring him into our bed about 1am he wakes to feed a few times after that but we don't get up until 8am. I also don't particularly want to sleep Train but I thought his sleep would be better than this at this point! I'm going back to work in a few weeks and even if he woke twice a night I wouldn't mind if he was in his own bed! It's so exhausting isn't it

Can I just say thanks to all who posted on this saying they are struggling too! I have an almost 9 month olds who wakes up every 60-90 minutes and it is exhausting!
Of course all of my friends have babies who sleep right through () so it’s helpful to hear of others who are also struggling

@Rubiales678 sounds a lot like my LO’s sleeping pattern! I also give in and cosleep from about 1am. Solidarity!

DD didn't sleep through until 11 months and then it just seemed to click overnight with no prompting from me! Annoyingly I think most just do it 'when they're ready'....and even more annoyingly that differs for every baby!

It's a completely unrealistic expectation for most babies. DD has started to have a few nights sleeping through from 15 months, but it's been sporadic. We are now hitting the 18 month regression so it's back to shit again.

Let go of the expectation - it is normal for a small baby to wake and to need you.

@Bigoldmachine ha ha it makes such a difference knowing someone else is going through exactly the same thing! @drumst1ck I agree I think they will just do it when they are ready, no point stressing ,just get through it knowing it will end eventually. Will people please post if they get an improvement to give the rest of us hope 😂😩

@DriftGames your post made me lol so hard 🤣🤣

My now nearly 3 year old was exactly the same and as I was still bf him at that point I couldn't even really ask anyone else to help with night feeds so completely understand how you feel and how mentally and physically tired you must be. At some point you may have to make the decision to cry it out. I did this very reluctantly at 10 months old although at times it pained me, within a few days we were going from 2-3 to 6-8 hour stretches. Since 1 year old he has gone through the night and still does with generally a 7-7 sleeping pattern sometimes even an hour longer. I genuinely think crying it out is the only way for some babies (and no I'm not talking about doing this with babies less than around 8 months).