would your parents/ILs smack your children?

[wannaBe]

Was at my parents' house today and we were having a conversation about kids' behavior, and my mum started to tell how my sister#s eldest ds is def having his moments atm, and she then went on to say "I smacked him the other day.". I was , because although i was smacked as a child, and I believe it did me no harm, I would be really if my mum had smacked my child as I don't do it.

Apparently my sister was ok with this, but she was only told after the event.

Would your parents do this?

I had the occasional smack on the bum when I was being a little you-know-what and it taught me a lesson but did no harm. I have given taps to Dc's very occasionaly. I would personally not mind that much if my Mum or Dad gave a tap to them if they deserved it, but they are usually so well behaved for them I don't think it would happen. Plus my Mum and Dad totally spoil them both...

I know that if they got a smack off my parents that it would only be as bad as what I got, and that was nothing! But I can understand why you would be angry as it varies alot from family to family. Depends on your relationship, how often they see them ect ect. You have the ultimate say in how your dc's are punished there if needs be.

And I know this is very different, but I once smacked sisters dog for barking and snapping at a small child... and she was miffed about it as she didn't realise how scared the child was!

my mum smacked my ds' hands the other day. i was cos i think we need to have one approach and all stick to it so he doesn't get confused.

Well it obviously depends on your own policy about smacking and your relationship with the rest of the family ie how much they are likely to respect your wishes. I have given DS the odd tap on the hand for repeated, delibrate disobedience (grabbing the hot grill pan, for instance: I'm of the opinion that a smacked hand is a better lession than a burned one). But I don't think it does kids that much harm to encounter different behaviour than what happens at home.