Newborn

[Supernoodle67]

My dad is 4 days old and is the perfect little person, he sleeps well in the day anywhere but a night is fractious and wont settle if put down. He cries after a couple of minutes. I have not slept since he was born more than 1 hour at night. I don’t mind as he is so good and so perfect and my milk has come inalienable guide the fear of taking my eyes off him. I don’t want to do sleep as I feel it’s too dangerous, any suggestions on what might make him feel more secure, he doesn’t like the dark so keeping the lamp on helps but he only seems comforted by nipple sucking, would anyone consider a dummy at this stage, I have heard it can affect establishing breast feeding

Ds not dad sorry autocorrect

Is there anyone that can help for a night or two and just wake you when baby needs milk?
You could try warming where he sleeps up and keeping his blanket near you so it smells like you. In all honesty I survived the first few weeks by doing shifts between us at night until he got better.

This is so normal at this stage. The only thing you can really do is survive and wait for this stage to pass! If DS is sleeping in his bed during the day sleep then when you can, then if you have to be up at night you'll still have some rest. You can also try warming his bed with a hot water bottle before putting him in it, swaddling, white noise etc. I'd wait to introduce a dummy if you're EBF or there's any issues with him latching, the way they suck on a dummy is different to a nipple.

He'll get better at it with time! Congratulations on your new baby.

It's very normal. I would try not to have any light at all at night as you want to try to establish day and night sleep patterns. I coslept until my son was a year so I could feed him lying down and then you don't need to wake yourself up properly by getting up and walking about. They're a many safe ways to cosleep so that might help a bit. Try to feed as often as he wants it during the day even if it's nearly all the time! This will change but it's normal! It will help you milk supply and ensure he's as full as he can be. Also I remember being told to change the nappy at every feed, don't it's a waste of nappy's and it just wakes the baby up! Obviously if it's very wet or a number 2 but don't just for the sake of it. Hope this helps a bit

I used to wrap the moses basket mattress in a worn t-shirt or vest top, this seemed to help as they could smell me.

DP used to take DC down stairs and dC would sleep on his shoulder as he watched tv/played a game for a few hours. When DC woke up he’d bring him to me in bed and then DP would go to bed in another room.

That way we would both get solid chunks of sleep in.

That young is waaay tiny and still just want to be with you.

Congrats 🥳

I'm so sorry but it's so normal. Me and DH took it in turns to be the one holding so the other could sleep. It is tough going and I cried every night and day until DD finally started to sleep in her cot for longer periods.

All that can fix it is time in my opinion. Hang on in there it is tough going! ❤️

I think it boils down to either taking shifts or cosleeping with a lot of babies to be honest. Which one would work best in your situation?

I used to put DD in a sleeping bag so when I transitioned her it wasn’t too much of a change of environment. In her next to me I wrapped a pillowcase around the mattress, and placed a hot water bottle in there before I placed her down (obviously taken out). I use to then lie in bed with her in the next to me and hold her hand if she was unsettled. DD was formula fed through, and had a dummy. We also used Ewan for white noise. That worked for me but I didn’t have the option of shifts as a single parent. But if none of the suggestions work, try forming a sleeping routine with your DP, or look into cosleeping and in time things will hopefully get easier.

I introduced a dummy with my DS at 2 or 3 days, he was exclusively bf until 4 months. Dummy was on midwifes advice to stop him using me as a dummy

Yes to a dummy. It was an absolute godsend. I tried EVERYTHING and in the end it was the difference between sleep and no sleep.