Some days I feel so deeply upset

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My son is 11 months and developing into a wonderful little boy. Hes what you would call an easy baby I think. I go to work 3 days a week and he goes to a nursery he loves. This morning he literally flung himself into the arms of the nursery member of staff that came to the door to get him.

....and yet sometimes im so deeply sad and tearful and dont know why. I want to keep it all together for my family as I dont want to be a burden. Its not everyday, but when it happens its just a wave of emotion. Does anyone else feel like this? Does it go away?

It’s just you feeling put out as a mum and hoping that they miss you as much as you miss them. Which they will do but you’ve clearly raised them well to be comfortable with other people and calm etc.

When DS first started nursery I was heartbroken that he loved it. I know of course rationally now that it was a very good thing that he was happy there from the get go, but I was upset that he didn't appear to miss me, and I was constantly telling myself that he preferred his key workers to me. I think part of it on reflection was just the overwhelmingness of all of it; going back to work after so long off, the unknown etc.

Be kind to yourself, your feelings are valid but that doesn't mean what you think is the way your little one is viewing the world if that makes sense.

If it's just now and again then be kind to yourself.

If it's more often then it might be worth talking to your HV or GP. PND can start later on and if you're crying a lot it could be worth you getting some input.

It's important to look after yourself as well as your wonderful ds. If he's throwing himself at a nursery worker then he's a secure, loving little boy and you're doing a great job!