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First time mumsnetter!! Help - How can I get my DS to poo in the potty

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izzyandjoesmum · 04/11/2007 17:29

I have started to potty train my DS aged 2.4 - ive been dead lucky cos he's taken to it really well and has only had a few wee accidents - when it comes to pooing though it is a different story - he poo's in his pants every time - I have tried using pull ups but as soon as I put them on him he stops pooing for some reason and they end up on and off for most of the day every time I hear that knowing grunting - I am quite happy for him to poo in the pull ups but he seems to just want to poo in his pants for some reason - he has no set routine for pooing - have tried all the ususal reading stories on the potty etc but nothing works - can anyone help me??

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FireworksScareMossyPets · 04/11/2007 17:41

No idea but bumping for you. Welcome to MN!

DesiderSparkler · 04/11/2007 18:02

No advice to offer, I'm afraid. My ds is three next week, and he still won't pooh in the toilet. He puts his own nappy on to do the business, then I whip it off again quickly!

I've given up trying, tbh. They'll get there when they're ready

NAB3sparklesandflashes · 04/11/2007 18:04

Put a nappy in the potty so he has the feel of it against his bottom. That is meant to help a bit. Good luck, and welcome.

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 04/11/2007 18:13

That's good advice NAB.

Welcome, Izzy

HonoriaGlossop · 04/11/2007 18:19

another welcome from me too Izzy. You're clearly a better woman than me because what I would do is stick him back in nappies if it was any sort of work AT ALL.

With ds, I waited until I thought he was more than ready and he did fine, from day 1, poos and pees on the loo, didn't even have to bother with a potty.

I really think if it's this hard then it's worth waiting. He's still only young.

Pitchounette · 04/11/2007 19:16

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babyboo1and2 · 04/11/2007 19:28

when my ds was like this i very quickly put some of his poo (from previous nappy and with marigolds on!) into his potty after he had weed in it and then me and dh went berserk jumping up and down praising him - i think it just convinced him he had actually done the deed - no problems after that

Bluestocking · 04/11/2007 19:37

I do sympathise - DS weed in the potty with no trouble at all from about 2.6 on - but he has only just stopped pooing in his pants at 3.7 - I tried all sorts of bribery, but I think he genuinely wasn't ready, because all of a sudden he asked to poo in his potty (about three weeks ago) and he hasn't pooed in his pants since. I think Desi is right and they just get there in their own time, and there's very little you can do to hurry them up.

silversparkler · 04/11/2007 19:56

I bribed my DS1 with this issue....a first poo in the potty = a little Thomas brio train. Worked a treat! Win win situation!
Good luck.

Bluestocking · 04/11/2007 19:59

How funny, SilverSparkler, I tried the Brio train briber route with DS - he complied a couple of times and then said "I don't want any more trains!" and went back to pooing in his pants!

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izzyandjoesmum · 04/11/2007 22:46

Thanks for all the advice - will stock up on Thomas trains and try that one and just try to be patiant - its juts nice to know that there are plenty of others out there the same - definatley not gonna give up though!! This site is great - only just discovered it and I already know that its hgonna be invaluable - until next time xxx

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gigglewitch · 04/11/2007 22:51

LOL babyboo!!

having just found a poo on the hall floor moments ago i sympathise. Twas only a yard away from potty i am on DC3 and still haven't figured it all out

SmellyMurkySky · 04/11/2007 23:23

I posted this on a virtually identical thread this mornning. Hope it helps...

This is how we did it in our house, possible a bit unMN friendly but hey ho.

DTDs would happily wee in potty, but waited to have a nappy on to travel to nursery (before we trusted them ) to do No 2s...

We brought a box of Kandoo wipes and displayed them on the toilet cistern.
DTDs were only allowed to use them if they did a number 2 in hte toilet.

They were fully toilet trained within a week!!!

gigglewitch · 04/11/2007 23:32

good one SMS!
oh we love saint Kandoo. great for bribery for the reluctant into handwashing, bum-wiping and showering (mine hated showers but would go in for a kandoo wash mit

CheekyGirl · 06/11/2007 21:13

Hi! I have just posted with the exact same problem!!! (see 'messy poo problem')

My ds is nearly 3 though. It's a problem not covered by the books on the subject, is it!!

My very nice health visitor suggested getting ds to help tip the poo in the toilet and wash the dirty pants so that he sees the result of pooing in his pants. Whilst doing this I am supposed to 'muse' out loud how much easier it would be if he were to do the poo straight into the loo or potty.....

Heated · 06/11/2007 21:21

DS refused to use the potty except as a hat. Only would poo in the loo. Used to race him to the loo to see who could get there first, bought him a step so he could reach on his own, his own special toilet paper to use for the occasion, special hand soap to make bubbles with in the basin afterwards, and a phone call to grandma when successful!

SmellyMurkySky · 06/11/2007 21:23

Yes but if he gets enjoyment from tipping his poo in the toilet (in a way that toddlers have this cunning ability to enjoy the things us adults don't ) it will backfire and he will do it more (well not stop anyway) so that he can have a fun time washing is pants and splashing about with water in the sink. Bad idea IMO....

I would go with Saint Kandoo personally. He can only use them if he poos in the toilet...far easier than potty (unless he has an absoluute phobia of the toilet where potty may be the only way)

gigglewitch · 06/11/2007 23:38

there is a distinct 'boy' theme going on here.

or am i re-reading too fast?

CheekyGirl · 07/11/2007 13:23

See what you mean, SMS - this morning he did seem to have fun!! Trouble is, I honestly don't think he realises when he's doing one, iyswim. I don't think he's doing it on purpose which makes it trickier!

SmellyMurkySky · 07/11/2007 17:14

I thought they had physiological control over their bowell before their bladder, maybe he just dosn't acknowledge it????

CheekyGirl · 08/11/2007 20:52

I thought that too which is why it's even more confusing. He doesn't grunt or strain or anything that we can 'work with' - it's just suddenly 'there'!! Really don't want to put him back in nappies.

mogwai · 09/11/2007 09:39

I'm having the same problem with my daughter (aged 2.5).

She's dry all day long in knickers at home/nursery but has never had a poo on the loo/in the potty.

She obviously knows when she wants a poo because she goes into one of two places in her bedroom and gets very upset when I go in.

Someone suggested buying a reward and hanging it from the back of the toilet door - it had worked for her but alas didn't work for me.

Today I took her to a toyshop and showed her the really big dolly she can have when she does it - she understands and retells ths scenario later, but makes no moves towards it.

So now I'll try kandoo wipes (am in Australia so here's hoping I can get them) and the nappy in the potty thing.

God, it's tedious.

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