Does anyone else feel exhausted from having a toddler?

[Mamabear04]

I absolutely love having a toddler but some days a just feel down right exhausted! She has so much energy and I just feel exhausted from constantly chasing after her and tidying up the tornado of mess that's left behind her. Can anyone else relate? I don't like to moan but all my mum pals never talk about this and I feel guilty for feeling so tired. Maybe I'm just weak and need to get on with it

I think every mum on the planet can relate to this

Omg yes - it’s a shame you have to ask! If you are brave enough to start moaning, I’m sure others will join you. And if they don’t that is odd imo. It’s exhausting. My almost 2.5yr old has just recently started with the hugely emotional about everything stage. Have you read the ‘cutted up pear’ thread in classics? Funny and full of mums marvelling at the total unreasonableness of toddlers!

As a side point, I think for me in large part when I feel most exhausted is when toddlers needs/wishes are butting head with mine, and I’ve got this simmering frustration that I don’t want the kids to feel, but nevertheless I have my own needs. I try to build in little pockets of things I like doing, or socialise where possible with friends with toddlers, for me rather than the kids, and get breaks to myself where I can. Then when my emotional cup is a bit topped up I can cope a bit better.

@Merename oh my goodness I completely understand! We've had a lot of snow the past few months and it's been so hard to catch up with friends and mum friends work on different days from me. I guess I haven't had any top up in a while. Maybe now the weather is warmer and I dont have to dress my LO in 5758955 layers it will be easier to get out. I think we are both much happier when out and about.

I'm hoping it's going to get a bit easier once she can talk and the moaning stops. She just seems to always want what she's not allowed and it really grates my gears!

Haha I have two and I wish I had 10% of their energy - in the loveliest way possible, my toddlers are wild and free and full of fun and, as a result, they're exhausting! We had a glimpse of spring last weekend and it was amazing - it's so much easier when they're out and about.

Yes, it is just soooooo irritating having to wrangle another person in and out of layers, nappy changes, clothes changes, etc, who has a different idea to you. I sometimes feel ‘if only you knew how pleasant life could be if you didn’t fight me on everything’! The rational part of me knows she’s just a person in her own right quite validly expressing that she wants something different but fuck me it’s hard work some days. Worst is when you know you’re showing your frustration and it’s making things worse but you feel too annoyed to stop it!

I wish I could tell you that the moaning stops when they can talk, lol!! But I know what you mean, the pre-verbal whinging - various things are easier when they can talk, and there is more fun between you in my view. I’d love a 3rd child but not sure I can handle the 0-2 phase again. Hope you get your top ups soon, make it a priority if you can!

SO exhausting. Mine is two. Pp who described the 'tornado of mess' left behind is so right - I feel like I just spend all my time clearing up after her.

This morning she poured her sibling's cup of water into a hat and threw it at the wall when I looked away for a minute 😭 And it's the following me everywhere I struggle with. EVERYWHERE. A constant little echo of "Mummyyyyyy" behind me... She had a meltdown when I dared to try and have a wee alone earlier.

Sigh.

Oh god I am so tired I’m not even dressed yet , mines gone to bed and I’m laying in my bed (its been a hard week) I wish I could stay here all day tbh. Everything is a battle - teeth clothes nappy. Going for a walk is even a battle as he throws himself on the floor when he’s had enough of walking or your not letting him jump in the pond. Then it’s wrestle a screaming child in the buggy. Makes me not want to go anywhere some days !