Help me figure out how to get DS to do number twos on the toilet!

[SpooKAYsamuels]

DS was very potty/toilet shy, but we managed to convince him and he now happily stands and wees into any given toilet/potty. However, he will not sit down on them and so is just pooing in his pants then telling me and I change them!

I haven't been making an issue of this, as it took a while to get him into pants (we made the transition by getting him to wee into a little yellow trug, flushing it down the toilet together, washing hands etc, then went straight to the toilet instead.) We had previously tried a potty, a potty chair and a toiet seat and step stool combo!

I just don't know how I can convince him to sit and poo, he will be starting nursery in January so I have plenty of time to get him sorted, but I need to find the right way to approach it. Any ideas or sugestions from anyone would be very welcome!

Watching with interest, my DS won't poo in the potty or loo either.

I'm in exactly the same boat with my two year old.

It's tough because he's keen to be in pants and will usually pull them down to wee in the lavatory ... but then he poos in them!

Glad to know I'm not alone at least!

Spooky I am in the same sitution as you. DS is 3.6 and was only potty trained in the Summer hols. Has only started to stand up and wee in the toilet. But number twos are a b.... nightmare, same as your son, in his pants. I say now that he uses toilet for wees he can use the potty for no. 2s but he is soo not interested. Hope somebody can help us with this.

I find it interesting they are all boys.... ponders...

My ds was the same and he took 2 weeks of poo accidents in his pants until he started using the toilet but was completely dry after 2 days.
First off I bought some disposable pants which I put inside his own pants that that when he did have an accident I could take out the 'lining' and bin that more easily. That meant that I was less antsy about him having accidents which helped.
Then to get him to go in the toilet I used bribes of 2 chocolate buttons.

I was thinking that bribery with chocolate may help. Or does he have an older boy cousin who he could go to the loo with - or Daddy?

2 weeks ! It took my DS2 a year! He was also dry within a few days of being out of nappies at 2.10, but the pooing.....

If he's under 3 I'd say put him back in nappies for a while, if over then from very painful experience, my advice is:

• Get him checked out by GP. Apparently some soiling can be caused by "seeping" around a blockage.

-Don't under any circumstances punish - just leads to them going to hide to do it, then you have to clear up much nastier mess. -Ignore Ignore Ignore. Clean him up without any talk or eye contact then get on with the rest of the day. Makes it less stressful for you if nothing else. -Lots of priase if/when he does get it right. We had a sticker chart and rewarded with a treat like going bowling or to the beach when he had certain no of stickers. -Buy lots of cheap pants so you can throw the really nasty ones away, especially when you're out. -Ignore anyone who makes you feel unhappy about it. I felt like a leper at Nursery for a while. -Don't let it define who he is. At one point whether my son had had a good day or not was entirely based on if he'd stayed clean. Even if you're cleaning him 4/5 times a day (which I was) there are still lots of hours in a day wheh he's great to be with. -Above all, I wish I'd had the confidence to belive the GP who said it would sort it's self out. My son eventually cracked it at c. 4.2.

Good luck and please enjoy your son in the meantime - I feel like I almost missed a year of his life, it became so all consuming.

This is how we did it in our house, possible a bit unMN friendly but hey ho.

DTDs would happily wee in potty, but waited to have a nappy on to travel to nursery (before we truted them ) to do No 2s...

We brought a box of Kandoo wipes and displayed them on the toilet cistern.
DTDs were only allowed to use them if they did a number 2 in hte toilet.

They were fully toilet trained within a week!!!

My daughter, {new to the appreviations) was dry at 2,2 but poops, well, she will hold on for days tried lactalose no help so it was suggested to have a bag of mini pressies on display in the bathroom, she can choose one every time she does a poo started yesterday, no poos yet. Watch this space she is now nearly three!!!

Seems I should maybe leave him be a while then, think I will be just totally ignoring it tho, no eye contact or anything when I change him...

I'm afraid to say that I resorted to bribery with ds1. I promised him choc buttons twice and that was it, and he's never had an accident since.

I'm watching with interest as DS has no interest in the potty, but finds it hilarious to wee on the carpet/bed/feet. Won't sit on the potty for me.
I have recently been offering stickers if he'll just sit on it, but after two days and two stickers, he lost interest.
He's 2,7 now.

Perhaps choc buttons are the way forward. Just this one time!

dd (2.8) was like this - doing wees on potty/toilet for ages but would just poop with no warning. We finally cracked it a couple of weeks ago when I told her she'd get a chocolate for every poo on the loo.

On the plus side she hasn't had an accident since but unfortunately she started trying to force out a poo every time she sat on the toilet (complete with heaving, straining, eye popping and grunting!!). She was managing 8 poos a day and demanding chocolate for every one . Have finally managed to persuade her to settle for a chocolate in the evening if all the poos are on the toilet.