My LG is almost 3 she comes into our bed every morning and she has this thing where she will either be all over me or her Daddy, she can never seem to love us both at the same time. It's like she thinks if she's getting attention from one of us she has to be mean to the other one, not sure if anyone else has experienced this and it's normal?
Anyway this morning it was her Daddy's turn for her to be all over 'I love you Daddy' 'I want a cuddle' 'I don't love Mummy' etc etc. Anyway he is lapping it up and I just think the best way for approach this situation is to ignore her so I turn away and tried to go back to sleep. Then she said 'you're so kind Daddy, Mummy isn't kind she hits people' I would just like to say firstly this is 10000% not true!! We actually had a conversation the other day because she said her friend at pre-school hit another friend and I was telling her that it wasn't kind to hit people and she must never do that.
I turned to her and in a stern voice said she must never ever say that about me because it isn't true. I also asked her Daddy (who was just lying there) to say the same so he just said 'yeh don't say that about your mummy, she doesn't hit people' and then she started crying. So he was then cuddling and kissing her saying 'aww don't worry don't cry' and comforting her. He then went on to give him his phone so that she could watch peppa pig (which I think is almost a reward).
How would you have handled this situation? I said I think he needed to be a bit more serious with her so she realised she can't say these things but he thinks I should have just left it?
I just worry she could go to pre-school and say something like that and rightly so social services would be contacted. Again he thinks I'm being over dramatic. But I work in housing and have attended several child conferences around child protection so I know how serious these things can get just from a passing comment like that.
Have any of your LOs ever said similar lies at this age? I'm quite shocked.