4 year old won't bath

[Mumof3girlygirls]

Need help please, my 4 year old potty trained herself at 1, NEVER any accidents at home only when she started nursery but didn't last long. Every time she has a bath she gets out 2-3 times to use the toilet. It's just her thing. Well 2 weeks ago when she was in the bath and asked to go toilet my 21 year old daughter laughed and innocently told her to just pee in the bath. 4 year old was horrified and demanded to get out. In 2 weeks she recoils at the word bath and we've managed to wash her in the kitchen sink once. Google are not very helpful has anyone else gone through this and found a plan that works.... We've even told her we are not playing games/toys with her until she's had a bath.... She replied with fine I will play alone 🤦

Don't pander to it. Try showering her 1st then sticking the plug in. Some bath toys may help as a distraction and make it fun again.

Ours are only allowed to wee before or after a bath, absolutely no way will I let them out during. Doesn't matter how much they fight, rules are rules!

With respect I don’t think forcing her to bath by tricking her with the plug in and refusing to let her out to wee is the best way forward; I think you’ll end up with her developing some real complexes around it.
Would she shower with you? Or try a bath with you? I wouldn’t be forcing the issue of an actual bath but washing in some format needs to be non negotiable. My 4 year old has been really against baths the last couple of months so at Christmas I got some of the crazy bath foam soap and managed to get her into the bath by it being fun and if not then I give her options of showering with me or a bath with no other options. It’s not always practical but I find that in the mornings she can be more open to negotiation than when she’s tired in the evenings.

Explain to her she has to get clean but she can choose bath, sponge bath or shower. Often giving a choice can make it easier for them to deal with doing something they don’t like (choosing the least worst is better than contemplating the worst).