So this may be a long one but a bit of background....
I have been married to my husband for 3 years and i love him very much. We have a 2.5 year old daughter together who is hard work but so adorable its unreal. I am now 15 weeks pregnant with our second child and have been so exhausted. This year due to covid i was made redundant in april and apart from a few temporary roles i have been out of work ever since. Finacially this is ok for us, not the best but ok. My husband works full time from home 8-4 monday to friday. My daughter goes to preschool 3 mornings a week from 9-12.
My daughter has a great routine and has slept through the night since 5 months old with a wake up time of 7am. My husband will stay in bed until 7:55 and then come down stairs make himself a coffee and go straight to his office. Meanwhile i have already been up for an hour with our 2 year old. On a saturday he will stay in bed until between 9 and 10 am. If i am lucky he will get up at 7 on a sunday but this is not consistent and will also have an extra couple of hours in bed most weeks. I am exhausted and would just like a couple of those days for it to be me who gets to sleep in. Am i being unreasonable to think this? I know it sounds petty but it bothers me alot. When i speak to him about it he just says, im asleep and you dont wake me? But i dont want to spend 10 minutes of the morning begging him to get up instead when he manages to wake up at 8 everyday without my help!
I feel like he thinks that because i am out of work he is entitled to more rest but i am running around after a very energetic toddler all day and trying to keep up with housework. My husband doesnt even come out of his office for lunch breaks and then when he has finished work he still doesnt play with our toddler much even though she desperately wants to see him.
I feel this has been more of a rant than anything but im just so tired and emotional!