Why can't I stop comparing

[LittleLamb19]

OK I know by just writing this I sound ridiculous but I just need to get it out there so its not all going around in my head.
So when I got pregnant around the same time 5 women I know (not good friends just acquaintances) announced they were pregnant within the space of 6 months. I've always compared myself to other women whether it be clothes, career, anything I've always hated myself for it but just can't help it.
Since having a baby its just gone into overdrive and I feel like I am always one step behind all the other mums.
When I see that some of the mums are sending their babies to a creche already and it hadn't even crossed my mind too I'm thinking why haven't I thought of it. When the other mums are getting this for them and that for them and I hadn't even thought about it I just keep thinking why haven't I?! I feel like I don't know what I'm doing and they do.
I know the easiest thing would be to not compare myself but I don't know how! Please help

Firstly I would give yourself a break because having that many pregnancies at the same time I think most people would find it difficult not to compare.

Can you focus on some positives. What do you think you do well as a mum? What do you enjoy doing? What do you think works for you and your little one that's specific to you two?

Also can you look at some of the comparing in a positive light, like seeing it as a helpful way to keep up. Only if this is relevant!...like I know I'm slow to notice certain things so sometimes it's helpful to see what others are doing.

Do you need to unfollow them on social media?

Oh bless you I know the feeling. I've been like this all my life and I don't know my. I had everything I needed when growing up have loving parents who brought us up so well so never feel like I've missed out. I do it more so now with my son. He is a year old next week and me and my friends and my brother and sister all had babies last year in the space of 8 weeks and I constantly compare my son to them all. My baby is 4th oldest out of the 9 babies born and if one of the youngest got a first tooth or did something before my baby my mind went in to over drive. But then I realised that my baby can do other things before the older babies. My son has 7 teeth and the oldest has none. I honestly think it's so normal. Don't be so hard on yourself and do all the things you mentioned above in your own time. Go against the wind instead of following them xx

It's just human nature. You're probably doing some things they're not ... like being on Mumsnet maybe.

I've no idea why you'd be particularly impressed by them sending their babies to a crèche ... nothing wrong with it but it's not something deserving of brownie points.

Everyone is copying off of someone else, taking hints and tips from other people.

I used to be like this (as I broke down because I didn't know a baby group song but another new mum did) until someone told me this

All that is natural to a mother is to love, keep them safe and warm, nurture them and protect them. Everything else is just circumstantial and happens by chance.

For example, my child will be able to go to pre school soon but I only knew that because another mum told me and she only knew because someone told her.

Don't worry

Thanks everyone. I think the situation at the moment, not working, none of my family close by and all this time on my hands is just making my mind go over and over things.
I don't follow any of them on social media however now and again I find myself checking out their pages to see how I compare when I'm feeling really low... crazy I know but I still do it
Think the whole creche thing really threw me cause like ErrolTheDragon said to me it was nothing to shout about but then knowing the reasons were so their kids could interact with other kids made me feel like the worst mum ever cause it hadn't even occurred to me that my daughter doesn't have any interaction with other babies.
I think like most of you said it probably is natural to compare just need to try and relax.

Babies don't 'need' interaction with other babies - all your baby needs is you! I doubt they're really putting them into creche to socialise anyway, they probably just want a break (fair enough) but want to sound like everything they do is for the wonderful benefit of their baby because they're such an amazing mother.
Don't waste your time comparing, put that time into having fun with your lo. x

How old is your baby? As Tal45 says, babies aren't really that bothered by other babies. Even when they're toddlers they're more likely to play beside each other (with occasional squabbles over toys) than really play with each other.

Honestly dont be phased by the creche thing. My 11month old goes to nursery for 3 days a week but thats only because I work. Id never consider it a talking point 😂

My DD absolutely refused to be left in a crèche. She's turned out rather well despite that, though I say it myself.