Doing the right thing by my child

[MamaOl93]

My son’s 4, he’s never had his father in his life, he just never cared. I kept all his family involved as I thought that’s the right thing to do and I stand by that notion.

I just feel very sad whenever I see couples announce their pregnancies together and they’re so happy or I see a loving dad and I wish so dearly my son had that.

Then there’s the reality of my son getting crushed if he was to walk in and out, so I chose not to get in touch as he hasn’t in 4 years.

But then there’s the guilt for my son growing up without a dad, he’s going to school this year and he’ll be asking questions I’m sure once he’s around kids with dads.

Any advice I would be grateful for, I just want to make sure I’m doing the right thing. Thank you

On going to school...

Kids ask each other questions so give your ds some basic facts that he can use. Daddy is called Fred, he has brown eyes & hair, he is a plumber and he likes Man Utd. He wasn't happy living in Kent so now lives in Manchester. Etc

For the mums at the gate, who also ask questions, decide on a calm boring version of your story and tell them that. The duller it is, the less likely it will feature in gossip.

And yes your ds will want to know more. Answer his questions in simple terms, Say that daddy wasn't happy and wanted to live somewhere else. Show him a picture if you have one. Don't make it a secret.