Won't poo on the loo

[allywilson]

Please help - my 3.6 dd has been happily using the loo for wees for some time and is almost dry at night but will not use the loo to poo and insists on wearing a nappy. If we don't put her a nappy on (which we have tried) she will hold back and this leads to constipation (which we resolved by a daily small dose of prescribed meds from doctor and tons of fruit). How can I get her to do a poo on the loo? She did one once on the loo and we made a real fuss and she said she was going to do it from them on but hasn't. She says she will do it when she is 4! She's quite headstrong and I don't want to make this a battle or cause her anxiety but we have promised treats , talked about it nicely and everything but no joy. Please help!

It's common, I can reassure you of that!

A friend has just gone through this with her DD (3-and-a-bit) and I think, just with perseverance and encouragement they got there. Yesterday, in fact, she took herself off to the school toilets to do one.

My DS did this as well - I went along with it and also talked to his nursery who were great. They started taking him into the loo when his friend went to poo - this got him talking about it a bit "Harvey poos on the loo but I don't" I used to say "Don't worry because one day you will".
About 6 months ago when he was 4years and 5 mon bths he just did it. He came back from nursery one day and was doing his usual "I don't want to go to bed" stuff when he sat on the loo to wee and suddenly said "I 'm going to do a poo like Harvey" - and he did. We made a huge fuss of him and rang grandparents etc - after that we never looked back.

I'd advise just going along with it and let her do it when she's ready - she won't be asking for a nappy at 14. I can sympathise though as we worried alot about him holding on all day at school etc but thankfully he overcame it before.

Going through same thing, 3 year old daughter will only poo in her nappy inside the towel cupboard (wees no problem and not in nappies in the day). Had a lovely HV about 4months ago who said we needed to get her in small steps to the loo, lots of rewards for each step. Also to initiate a no stress sit on the loo every day with no expectation of anything but getting her used to sitting, had special colouring book for it etc. This worked really well and we got her sitting and pooing on the loo but still in the nappy. Unfortunately for us when we eventually said ok now we need to lose the nappy she got nervous and eventually refused to poo for 4 days and we ended up having to medicate her (eventually she had a catastrapoo whilst riding her bike, another story, thank goodness for knee pads)Anyway then the whole thing became a big stress and lots of tears and her refusing to poo at all and having to keep medicating her. So, she is back in the towel cupboard! (although she does have her 5 minutes sitting practise every night just before she gets her nappy. HV also suggested getting them to blow bubbles or balloons during practise sitting in the hope a poo will pop out!) She is also headstrong and I think we wont get anywhere until she really wants to do it. She did manage a couple of poos before she stopped going and we had started a 'poo necklace' where she could add a sparkly bead to a necklace each time she pooed which might work for you. My new plan is to wrap a large over glittery present leave it in the bathroom and when she asks just airly say 'oh thats for when you want to poo in the loo' and then say no more about it and see if she makes her own decision. Good luck and would welcome any ideas if you get any advice

Going through same thing, 3 year old daughter will only poo in her nappy inside the towel cupboard (wees no problem and not in nappies in the day). Had a lovely HV about 4months ago who said we needed to get her in small steps to the loo, lots of rewards for each step. Also to initiate a no stress sit on the loo every day with no expectation of anything but getting her used to sitting, had special colouring book for it etc. This worked really well and we got her sitting and pooing on the loo but still in the nappy. Unfortunately for us when we eventually said ok now we need to lose the nappy she got nervous and eventually refused to poo for 4 days and we ended up having to medicate her (eventually she had a catastrapoo whilst riding her bike, another story, thank goodness for knee pads)Anyway then the whole thing became a big stress and lots of tears and her refusing to poo at all and having to keep medicating her. So, she is back in the towel cupboard! (although she does have her 5 minutes sitting practise every night just before she gets her nappy. HV also suggested getting them to blow bubbles or balloons during practise sitting in the hope a poo will pop out!) She is also headstrong and I think we wont get anywhere until she really wants to do it. She did manage a couple of poos before she stopped going and we had started a 'poo necklace' where she could add a sparkly bead to a necklace each time she pooed which might work for you. My new plan is to wrap a large over glittery present leave it in the bathroom and when she asks just airly say 'oh thats for when you want to poo in the loo' and then say no more about it and see if she makes her own decision. Good luck and would welcome any ideas if you get any advice

Going through same thing, 3 year old daughter will only poo in her nappy inside the towel cupboard (wees no problem and not in nappies in the day). Had a lovely HV about 4months ago who said we needed to get her in small steps to the loo, lots of rewards for each step. Also to initiate a no stress sit on the loo every day with no expectation of anything but getting her used to sitting, had special colouring book for it etc. This worked really well and we got her sitting and pooing on the loo but still in the nappy. Unfortunately for us when we eventually said ok now we need to lose the nappy she got nervous and eventually refused to poo for 4 days and we ended up having to medicate her (eventually she had a catastrapoo whilst riding her bike, another story, thank goodness for knee pads)Anyway then the whole thing became a big stress and lots of tears and her refusing to poo at all and having to keep medicating her. So, she is back in the towel cupboard! (although she does have her 5 minutes sitting practise every night just before she gets her nappy. HV also suggested getting them to blow bubbles or balloons during practise sitting in the hope a poo will pop out!) She is also headstrong and I think we wont get anywhere until she really wants to do it. She did manage a couple of poos before she stopped going and we had started a 'poo necklace' where she could add a sparkly bead to a necklace each time she pooed which might work for you. My new plan is to wrap a large over glittery present leave it in the bathroom and when she asks just airly say 'oh thats for when you want to poo in the loo' and then say no more about it and see if she makes her own decision. Good luck and would welcome any ideas if you get any advice

sorry computer playing up!