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Stopping 14 month old feeding to sleep

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NewMumma1819 · 11/02/2021 18:56

My 14 month old DS has always been fed to sleep for all sleep. Whether it's a nap or night time sleep. He doesn't know how to sleep without having a breast feed and has never taken to a bottle or a dummy so I'm the only one who has been able to get him down since birth. I'm basically looking for tips on how to eliminate the feeds, without tonnes of tears from everyone in the hope he maybe sleeps a bit better at night and so my DP can put him to bed some nights (this is something he has always wanted to do but never been able to). He currently feeds at bedtime (6.30pm) for anything from 10 mins to 40 mins depending on how tired he is. Then he may wake in the night for a feed, though recently has started going until 4.30am but then waking up for the day as he seems to be so hungry for milk. If we are up then he'll feed on and off until 7ish (only 2-5 min feeds). He'll then be fed to sleep for morning nap and afternoon nap. He may pull at my top for another feed before tea but this is rare now. So has anyone experienced this? If I try and rock him or lay him down in his cot he'll either scream and scream until I give in or point to the door.

Sorry thats long winded but wanted to include as much info as possible. Thanks!

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Constantfacepalm · 11/02/2021 20:29

Similar situation with 14 month old dc2...

I havd started distancing the feed and the sleep, so usually i feed with light on, and pop her in cot slightly awake having detached while she is just sucking intermittently, then fumble around with light and white noise... so not really fed to sleep. What had worked with her before (when I was less lazy), and also worked a treat for dc1, was to change the order of things and not ever feed in bedroom... ie breastfeed downstairs quietly before bath, book and bed etc. Rather than bath, nook, breastfeed, bed. Both kids seemed to accept that one quite quickly

Constantfacepalm · 11/02/2021 20:31

Also it's a relief in a way to get breastfeeding done and dusted before bath, as they are much quicker then and no faffing around!
If they make a fuss then dad has to go in to soothe from that point onwards (so your job is done!)

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