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Is it weird for mil to tell baby to smack?

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alesha123445 · 09/02/2021 10:54

Hi everyone. I have had a guard up around mil, its more to do with feeling a little smoothered by her and pressured in to changing my parenting. I have told her straight and things have settled. Ive come to relise that she just loves the little one and despite me not likeing some stuff, i just keep my mouth shut and move on.

Theres one thing i havnt been able to shake though. A couples weeks ago she was lighlty smacking their dog saying 'say naughty dog'. I dont like their dog licking my babys mouth so i put it down to that, but the dog was just lying on the couch?
the mil and fil came round last week, whilst fil was drilling in the wall mil start smacking his bum going 'smack grandads bottom' This made me feel a bit weird. She also goes 'smack daddy' whilst my partners holding her, there was no reason for this. On the same day, i never saw what happened but i think lo hurt herself on a toy? and mil started smacking the toy saying 'Naughty toy' I know a lot of people do this but its with everything else too. Why is she doing this? I will never smack my child and dont want her learning to smack either. What if she ends up copying and thinking that its okay to hit a child for bumping in to her at nursery? or me for saying no? or simply thinks its a game.
Am i over reacting?

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alesha123445 · 09/02/2021 10:58

forgot to add, my baby is 1 year in 1 week and is starting to mimic a lot

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BingBongToTheMoon · 09/02/2021 10:58

No. Definitely put a stop to this. What if the poor dog didn’t appreciate getting “smacked” and turned round at ripped a chunk out of your baby?! (Dramatic,I know, but you get the gist).

Pinkflipflop85 · 09/02/2021 11:02

I would not be happy about this at all.

The smacking the dog is the most worrying for me. One day that dog will retaliate.

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Marcipex · 09/02/2021 11:05

Nope.
I know someone who thought it was funny to teach boys to do this.
One day their ds did it v v inappropriately at school and all hell broke out.

alesha123445 · 09/02/2021 11:10

Does anyone have any theories as to why she is teaching my child this?

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alesha123445 · 09/02/2021 11:28

How do i bring this issue up? Do i wait till she does it again then step in and explain why i dont want her doing this? Or do i message her even thought its been a week since we last saw her when she did this?

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Warrickdaviesasplates · 09/02/2021 11:53

I don't know why your mil would be doing this (aside from the obvious "she's an idiot" explanation) there's so much which could go wrong smacking the dog, child could smack another child etc.

If she does it again I'd just firmly say "no DD we do not hit. Hitting is bad" and then to mil and say "do not teach her to hit, it's exactly the kind of behaviour I will not tolerate" and don't enter into any further discussion about it just repeat "I will not tolerate hitting".

Also get DH on board, if he undermines you with this it won't stop.

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