Vaccinations

[latheritup]

If you found out a friend chose not to vaccinate their children, would you still allow your child to mix with them?

I've just found out someone I know has decided not to and I'm not sure how I feel.

I d be concerned because I d also wonder what other ways they are neglecting their health, I d be worried if you had a specific health request if they ever had a play date whether they wouldn't listen to it because it wasn't natural or some other non logical reason. Other course if they re reason is the child has an allergy or health condition that's stopped them doing it that's completely different

If your child is vaccinated it shouldn’t make a difference...

@Sls668

If your child is vaccinated it shouldn’t make a difference...

Yes mine is up to date. I firmly believe in them.

If yours is vaccinated, why would you stop them playing together?

@Sls668

If your child is vaccinated it shouldn’t make a difference...

This is not entirely true. Vaccination offer some immunity to the individual but herd immunity reduces the opportunity for the virus to spread increasing the communities immunity.

@SleepingStandingUp

If yours is vaccinated, why would you stop them playing together?

This is why I'm asking the question as I'm unsure of the risks and if it's safe.

I would because there are plenty of times when children will be in contact with each other and you'll have no idea who has or hasn't been vaccinated. So as long as mine are all up to date I wouldn't let it bother me.

I was clarifying of it was a risk based question or a judgement of the family based question.

Agree with Button, on lots of instances you won't have a clue. Even parents who say they have might lie from stigma. The risk of say TB being in your community, this particular child catching it and giving it to your vaccinated child seems pretty low. Far more likely to catch chicken pox or nits

I wouldn't be worried about the risk to my child (fully vaccinated) but I'm not sure I'd want to be friends with someone who didn't want to vaccinate their children. It's different if they have a medical reason obviously but if they were anti vaxxers I think I'd struggle to stay civil tbh.

@Ticklemynickel

I wouldn't be worried about the risk to my child (fully vaccinated) but I'm not sure I'd want to be friends with someone who didn't want to vaccinate their children. It's different if they have a medical reason obviously but if they were anti vaxxers I think I'd struggle to stay civil tbh.

I think the reason was an apparent reaction with a previous child...

I would let the children play together, but I wouldn’t leave my child in the care of an anti-vaxxer because I wouldn’t trust their judgement if there was a medical emergency.

It would depend on the age(s) of the children and their lifestyle. If, for example, your anti-vaxxer friend had a child who was in nursery or school (mixing with lots of children) and you had a baby that is unvaccinated due to being too young, then yes, I think I would would avoid mixing with them.
If your children are the same age and yours has therefore been vaccinated, it probably wouldn't bother me.

@Ticklemynickel

I wouldn't be worried about the risk to my child (fully vaccinated) but I'm not sure I'd want to be friends with someone who didn't want to vaccinate their children. It's different if they have a medical reason obviously but if they were anti vaxxers I think I'd struggle to stay civil tbh.

Same. And if either the child or the parent made any comment about being anti-vaxx in front of me or my child I would be politely but firmly making it clear how irresponsible I thought they were.

I’d let my child mix with them; in all honesty at school amd nursery children mix and you have no choice or knowledge of vaccinations but it’d change my view of a friend

“Same. And if either the child or the parent made any comment about being anti-vaxx in front of me or my child I would be politely but firmly making it clear how irresponsible I thought they were.”

😂😂😂 Scary. Bet she’ll crap her pants and go home, full of remorse, cry into her pillow and decide that there’s only one thing worse than your first baby being hurt by vaccinations and that’s a telling off from DappledThings.

Can honestly say it’s never enter my mind, I mean you’ve found out about this child, but what happens when they go to school? Assume there will be non vaccinated children there too...I’d try not worry.

@Dodododahdahdah

“Same. And if either the child or the parent made any comment about being anti-vaxx in front of me or my child I would be politely but firmly making it clear how irresponsible I thought they were.”

😂😂😂 Scary. Bet she’ll crap her pants and go home, full of remorse, cry into her pillow and decide that there’s only one thing worse than your first baby being hurt by vaccinations and that’s a telling off from DappledThings.

Oh I very much doubt it. But I'm not prepared to let crap like that go unchallenged. And if there's any chance it makes the child think and challenge it themselves when they're older then it will have done some good.

Thanks for sharing you're opinions and not making me feel silly for asking the question. I didn't think about school.

Our nursery requires you to have them done so it didn't cross my mind.

If my child was under 1 and the unvaccinated child over 1, I wouldn't as I would be worried about measles. Over 1, once my child got their measles vaccine, I wouldn't be so worried.

Our nursery says it's a requirement too but we haven't been asked for any proof. We just said on the form when we registered - up to date with vaccinations. So it would have been pretty easy to lie about it.

Nurseries are not allowed to insist you have them, it’s discrimination.