Two DD’s close in age

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I’m pregnant with my second DD there will be just under 2 years between them and I’ve always heard how hard having two daughters is and how they would have a million boys over raising more girls.
Is this just personal opinion? I’m I talking to the wrong people? Does anyone have 2 daughters who have an amazing bond? I know siblings fight and totally prepared for that but I’m being given the impression of WW3 at every turn.

I'd think an age gap like that will be brilliant in terms of into the same things etc, there will be 5 years between mine and I think it's going to be a nightmare!

14 month gap between DDs here. I always wanted boys but I absolute LOVE my two girls close in age!!! They're so easy and truly a joy to parent (of course they have their moments though)!

They're still preschool age and I'm sure things will be tricky during the teens years but so far so good!

My girls are 22 months apart. Now 10 and 8. They have always played together, adore each other and are a delight.

Absolutely loving hearing everyone’s personal experiences. I know even if they bicker sometimes it’ll be a lovely experience but really hope they have some things in common.
DD is the funniest and most loving little toddler, hope she teaches some of that too her sister.

Thanks for your replies they have helped me rationalise that not all families are the same and two girls doesn’t guarantee it’ll be any worse or any better than with boys.

13 months between me and my sister and we were like twins growing up. Sure we argued but all siblings do. Shared room out of choice and even 'secret' communication when we were young that is seen with twins. Our bond is so close (though perhaps not conventionally huggy/affectionate). I love it and it makes me want to have kids close together.

I have three girls all 21 months apart. It’s been brilliant. They played together, do the same things on holiday, we all could do activities as a family that they would all like. They are young adults now and best friends.

3 school year gap between my girls but they have always got on and continue to do so as older teens. Personalities helped. The okay one liked being responsible and mature, c the younger looked behind babied. I think it had helped to treat them as individuals and recognise of of their strengths. It's tempting if they are close in age to have them doing everything together but friends who have done that, with daughters with a closer age gap, the girls have fought more. Perhaps try to get them to do different activities, even if it is less convenient. But just enjoy them. I've loved raising two girls, even though I would have equally relished having 2 boys.

20 months between my 2, now 23 and 25.
Very different people with different life goals.
Not particularly close, but always have each other’s backs, and very supportive of each other.

Two girls very close in age.
Great bond when little. No problems.
Teen years a proving a little different but when the chips are down they have each other’s backs.
Loved having two little girls -congratulations OP!

My 2 eldest DD's who are close in age were inseparable when they were little. It was so lovely and a joy seeing them both play together. They are now in their 20's and cant' be in the same room for more than 5 minutes without one of them being snappy at the other. I'm hoping things will go full circle once they have children of their own.

2 year gap between my dds, who are now 9 and 7. I'm in the hell on earth camp. Whether that's to do with them being girls or just their personalities i don't know. My ds is a breeze which i wonder is because he has no immediate "competition". The girls fight over everything you could imagine.

2 DD with 3 years between them, they bicker sometimes and the eldest can be mean sometimes but they also have a great bond. All siblings bicker regardless of gender and your house will probably smell better with 2 girls

OP It’s partly up to you. I have zero tolerance for fighting, bickering or needling at each other - in separate rooms until they can behave nicely, repeat as often as necessary. People say I’m lucky to have easy dds who get on. I think it is partly personality (the older is responsible and kind and looks after the younger one) but it is also partly about how you choose to parent them. They still choose to cuddle up in bed together sometimes and read, it’s very sweet.

20 months between me and DB and we hated each other as teens: didn't speak, apart from fighting, for about 3 years! You can't know how your two will get on and you can't change the sex of the one you're expecting so unless you would really have an abortion over this issue, stop torturing yourself over it!

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OP It’s partly up to you. I have zero tolerance for fighting, bickering or needling at each other - in separate rooms until they can behave nicely, repeat as often as necessary. People say I’m lucky to have easy dds who get on. I think it is partly personality (the older is responsible and kind and looks after the younger one) but it is also partly about how you choose to parent them. They still choose to cuddle up in bed together sometimes and read, it’s very sweet.

If mine want to bicker, fight, or needle, I leave them to it. They almost never do and still usually wake up in the same bed. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Getting on is far more about personality than parenting.

It’s down to how you nurture their relationship. My dd (nearly 8) got up and made dd4 toast and milk for her breakfast this morning. I could hear her down stairs talking to her like she was her mum and told her if she ate her breakfast she’d give her £1

They do bicker but they love each other dearly. I’m glad they have each other.

My two are less than 18 months apart and apart from the odd squabble when they’re tired they just get on so well. It’s a dream. Been this way since youngest could communicate/play. Obviously not easy at first basically looking after two babies and I could have slapped every person who commented ‘you’ve got your hands full’ but just so so worth it. Made lockdown much easier too. There are so many arguments for every different age gap though so I totally see that there are benefits for not having your children so close together too.

I have 2 girls 23 months apart. 12 and 14 now. Generally they've always got on pretty well, good at playing together, they walk in to town together, and scheme things together.

Son is 9 and much harder work, does get on with 14yr old who likes to help him and mother him a bit but him and 12 yr old fight all the time, can't stand the sight of each other most of the time.