My baby is always angry and crying, pleas help !

[Jazzy1990]

I don’t know what to do anymore ! My daughter is going to be 5 weeks tomorrow and I just don’t know what to do anymore. She is always crying day and night, never happy. I have tried infacol, gripe water, comfort milk and nothing is helping. Cry’s constantly please help me someone. I have tried everything. I’m not enjoying being a mum at all.

OP is she breast or bottle fed? Definitely look into possible soya and dairy intolerance. My friend had a similar problem as soon as she ditched dairy from her diet, her DD was much better.

Do you have any help at all, any support? Baby’s dad, family? Try and get some help if you can by getting them to take the baby so you get a little rest.

Definitely speak to your GP or Health Visitor, they are there to help you.

@welshsoph I’ve spoken to my HV o don’t have a set person I just called a talked to someone, she said it could be many things and to make an appointment with the gp. I just feel so drained. :(

@Yumyumdindins I’m mix feeding, so breast and bottle. Will try giving up dairy. Thankfuly I have help, but does not settle with anyone and no one can handle her, so when they have her and she’s crying I feel so anxious. I’m just so down because of this, don’t say anything to my other half because he just doesn’t understand. He goes to work he has no idea how it feels to be with a crying baby all the time.

Sending so much sympathy. My DD was like this too at that age.

Definitely make a GP appointment too, maybe a double appointment so you can talk about yourself and the baby too just in case you feel rushed.

My DD basically just hated being a newborn! As soon as her digestion settled she was so sunny and smiley. The one thing that helped us both was getting out for a long walk every morning - it meant a change of scenery for me, and she slept a bit better on the move.

@tinselandlights will make a gp appointment tomorrow, I’m crying and trying to get her to sleep right now. Been trying to put her to sleep for the last 3 hours. But she’s wide awake. She been awake for 3 hours of not more. Has had no block sleep today. What’s wrong with her. I feel like I can’t cope like this anymore.

Is she just crying? Is it worse when you lay her down? Does she arch her back? Is she sick after feeds at all? Can you hear any gurgling in her throat when (if) she's laid down?

Hi OP so sorry to hear, I could of wrote this and it's absolutely exhausting isn't it!
My little boy ( 10 weeks now) didn't adjust well to the world and like you tried everything all the milks, infancol, coleaf etc then went to doctor who prescribed gaviscone and that just made things worse so he is now been on omaprazole for 2 weeks and I am just noticing an improvement - doc said he has reflux/ colic and it was constant being screamed at all day and night I really hated being on maternity leave, I was so overwhelmed and wished to be back at work, with no support bubble and new to the area it really got me down. It's only in the last 2 weeks things are beginning to get better I know it feels it's going to be like this forever but I promise it won't - stay strong - you got this moma! My best advise would be keep pushing the doctor for help, if you get gaviscone be very wary on horrendous constipation, I gave LO water as advised by health visitor to ease pain but eventually the constipation became worse than the original problem and DS was back to crying day and night in pain/ discomfort so back to the doctors we went for omaprazole. Every time I'd put him down to lay down he was sick so we invested in reflux wedge like a foam wedge to keep him at an angle when on changing mat, Moses basket and pram these have been great! I hope you get somewhere with the GP

I know how your feeling, my now 7 year old cried constantly for her first 3/4 months of life, I would cry most the time with her as I just didn't know what to do (I even went back to work at 6 weeks so I could have a break from the crying)
Turned out she had silent reflux, I called a HV crying one day and said I NEED help!! She came round and knew what it was right away, she went on to gaviscon and worked a treat, she could finally have a proper feed.

Hope it all goes well at the doctors tomorrow, remember it won't last forever although right now you can't see the end. If it gets too much, just put baby down and close the door for a few min and take deep breathes.
Take care xx

My niece not just cried but screamed for hours at a time. Turned out she was daily intolerant and drinking the milk caused her pain. She switched to soya milk and crying stopped almost immediately. See GP ask about possible dairy intolerance. Niece was sisters first baby and she was scared something was seriously wrong with baby.

@Mylittlesandwich she’s cry’s all the time, when I pick her or lay her down still crying. I can hear gurgling in her stomach and she fart quite a bit.

@zooloo88 your little boy sounds like my little girl. It seems like my girl hates the world and she’s pissed she’s here. She was actually late so she clearly didn’t wanna come.ahe grunts a lot when she wakes up, like she’s having a poo but she’s not. I just can’t figure out what’s bothering her.

@Joiningthegossip everyday I pray that it’s a better day and everyday it’s bad if not worse. I justified don’t know how much longer this is gonna go on, do they get better slowly or is my daughter always gonna be miserable:(

@caringcarer I’ve tried colief and it didn’t work so I’m thinking couldn’t it be a dairy allergy?

Op, ds3 has suspected delayed cmpa. Which means since it’s covid times he won’t get a diagnosis as our gp stopped seeing people face to face (but nurses will) and I stopped eating dairy (I was exclusively breastfeeding at the time) on the advice of our gp. I was also thinking of stopping breastfeeding then and I asked him which formula would be best and is dairy free. He said he would prescribe us some. Two weeks later, ds3 felt like a new baby. But he did start improving slightly from few days. He was actually a happy baby when not in pain caused by cow milk. Before that he just cried and cried, and had mucous filled poo.

I would say giving up dairy is worth a try but I would also discuss it with my doctor.

I would also like to remind you that you could form a support bubble, having a child under 1. It is very hard during lockdown, if your mental health needs it do it.

It will get easier, you will find once they start eating it all changes.. I know it feels ages away right now but it will come.
I always look back and feel sad as I have very few photos of her as a baby as she was always crying and I didn't really enjoy being her mum (terrible thing to say) but I honestly know how your feeling. You will get through this,

What did the dr say today?

Sympathies OP, it is really really hard. My son was similar, hours of crying and wouldn't sleep. Wake up and cries again, always angry.
He got better by about 3 months. I don't know if it was colic, I do think it was general indigestion as a tiny baby and he just grew up and got better at digesting milk.
Mine was always arching his back and looked pained... so I cycled his legs and massaged his tummy and also burped him religiously over my leg and shoulder, that seemed to help a bit.

Your baby won't always be miserable!! This will pass, it doesn't feel that way but it will.

I know it's cold out but if you are going mad inside, it really helps to go out for a walk to clear your head a bit. Mine cried outside anyway, but when we were out the cries felt far less loud!

Colief is for lactose intolerance, but dairy allergy is different. It's a reaction to cow milk proteins so colief won't help it.
I recommend speaking to your GP for a hydrolysed formula where the milk protein is broken down. That made all the difference to my little ones.

Just to add, hang in there. It's hell but as pp have said it will get better. I agree with getting out for a walk with the pram if you can and even on your own for a while too. Can your OH arrange to have a few days off? That's what helped my DH realise how hard it was!

Hi everyone, thank you for the advice and message. I went to the gp yesterday she said it could be many things but she thinks it could be reflux more silent reflux as my LO isn’t sick, she’s has prescribed gaviscon has that helped anyone out there ? @StooriMidori if gaviscon doesn’t work I will talk to gp about the special milk.

It does feel like it’s never ending, I wish my baby wasn’t always so upset. @Joiningthegossip I take no pictures cause she’s always unhappy

Gaviscon worked for us personally but it did cause constipation. It didn't bother DS that much and it was worth the trade off.

That's what my daughter had, silent reflux. A good tip my Dr gave me is if we are having a bad day do 1oz milk with a sachet of gaviscon so it's a thick mix then make up the rest of the milk to follow without the gaviscon and it worked. We would give her a bit of water too through the day to avoid constipation.
Fingers crossed it helps for you & your baby is much happier soon

Gaviscon helped us a bit, but the silent reflux was actually caused by the dairy allergy so ultimately it was a milk switch we needed. We still used the gaviscon as and when to get us over the rougher refluxy times though.

How are you doing? I remember with my first how horrendous it was - I was knackered - so remember it's absolutely okay to take time out if you need to xx

Cranial osteopath - there's some threads on here you can look at to see the difference it's made for lots of babies.

Good luck