Ds12. PlayStation in bedroom or not?

[keepingmindful]

My DS is 12 (nearly 13) and we've always had his PlayStation connected to the tv in the kitchen (far end where there is a small sofa) . It's a bit annoying listening to him shouting 1HP on Fortnite every few minutes but I know when he is on it, when he has had his time allocation and if he has a fall out with friends on it. He is asking to have his Playground moved to his bedroom? What are your experiences of having a console in a DCs bedroom? He had it in his room temporarily last year when we had some building work going on and we found him on it at 10pm when we came to bed so I've told him that we'd need to trust him and he'd need to buy a monitor himself if we agree. Help please!

I’d say there is not a chance that he will be trustworthy. Tell him he can have if in his room but that you will be removing the controllers at a certain time every night.

Hmmm difficult- my kids have theirs in the lounge so at least I can shut the door. Is that an option?

Otherwise whatever will save your sanity.....if you do go ahead be clear it's only till the end of lockdown.....then you have a get out if it doesn't work for you. Also be clear on his ground rules.

No way for our dc. Can't guarantee when they would be in it, also first thing out of bed on a morning they would be on it!

We still have ours in room so I can monitor tone of conversation etc. Might seem overbearing but no way do they have them in own rooms.
Bedrooms are for rest and winding down.

@Mumdiva99

Hmmm difficult- my kids have theirs in the lounge so at least I can shut the door. Is that an option?

Otherwise whatever will save your sanity.....if you do go ahead be clear it's only till the end of lockdown.....then you have a get out if it doesn't work for you. Also be clear on his ground rules.

Unfortunately lounge isn't an option as he has 3 sisters watching Lego Friends etc. Limiting it to a trial period for lockdown may be the way forward to see if we can trust him

@nimbuscloud

I’d say there is not a chance that he will be trustworthy. Tell him he can have if in his room but that you will be removing the controllers at a certain time every night.

Good idea, although me and DH spend enough time hiding amazons, phones, and other devices from our Dc, half the time I can't remember where I've hidden them!

Can it go in your bedroom at all? - just another thought.

Hi OP, my ds is 12, and i have put his xbox in his room, ive set him rules, if he does not stick to the rules he gets banned off the xbox for a few days, the rules are come off the xbox by 930 (currently in lockdown) so hasnt got to get up so early, he doesnt go on there till after 3pm when hes done all his live lessons and school work, and i do monitor who hes talking too and playing with. And he sticks to it. Only twice hes been on it longer than he should have and hes been off it for a couple of days. No harm done, give your ds a chance and let him show you he can be trustworthy, but also lay down the rules. Hope it helps. Good Luck 👍