Do grumpy, quick to frustrate babies, become grumpy, quick to frustrate tots/teens?!

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You always hear how people’s kids ‘are such happy and carefree babies’ but rarely do you have people saying well actually mines a bit of a grump! Just wondered if anyone with grumpy babies had any stories to share and if it gets any better as the babies get older.

My almost 1 year smiles and laughs, and we have Great photos that we send to the grandparents as they aren’t able to see DS due to lockdown. But what they don’t see is that actually for the most part of the day is completely different, and we have tears and tantrums and general just pick me up and carry me everywhere! We’ve done the usual checks of you are fed, clean, cuddled and can’t possibly be sleepy, but still the grump! As he approaches 1, we are trying to encourage him to learn new things but he is quick to get frustrated when he can’t do something, or gets something ‘wrong’ and it doesn’t matter to him that he had successfully already done the task several times before.

We have come to terms with the fact we have a bit of a grump on our hands. DH has admitted it probably come from him!! But does it get better? Or should I expect the constant battle to learn new things when they are 2..5...18!!!!

My eldest child was a real grump, god he did nothing but whinge and moan. I’m sorry to say that at 6 he’s still a grump, gets frustrated easily and is so sensitive. Sorry!

Not always, my third child was the most frustrated baby- I swear he cried and grizzled non stop until he could walk and talk. He's now a cheerful and easy going five year old, he totally changed around 18 months old.
Have faith, it's really hard but it doesnt mean anything. Keep doing what you're doing and hopefully he'll cheer up soon enough!

Nope, as a baby my second was the unhappiest, most frustrated baby I always said if he'd been my first born he would've been my last. He was hard work as a toddler but by the time he reached teenaged years he was so laid back he was horizontal and he remains that way as an adult.

My DS was a difficult baby, a frustrated toddler, would get very upset if he couldn't do something, he had a terrible temper, fueled mostly by a strong sense of right and wrong, until he was about 9yo, but as a teen he was as laid back as can be. I sometimes wish he would get angrier these days.

Yes my first baby was a real grump and still a grump now at 15.

She always cried at the drop of a hat and still does now.
Second baby has always been very happy and it's true now, she hardly cries unless she is really hurt, she is 6

My DS was an extremely frustrated baby. He's an absolute delight now at 16, well mostly

My eldest cried most of the time until he was six months old. He went through a nice stage between 2 and 6. Now he's grumpy again as a 7YO.

My youngest was a happy baby, nightmare around two and three and generally OK now. He's 5.

My DS was famously grumpy, whiny and cross with the world at 1 you old. He's a bit better now (age 6) but...that same negative temperament is still there. I would actually say, thinking of his baby group friends, that their personalities were evident by the age of 1, and they have changed surprisingly little.

Hmm... so there may be hope... or there may not be I guess it’s all a roll of the dice

I hope so in my case! My baby is so sunny tempered and chilled, I really hope he stays this way.

DS was so grumpy until he could move, and then got easier and easier as he crawled then walked then ran - he seemed to just hate being immobile. He's now a toddler, and as far as I can see an easier than average one, though even for a toddler he has a very strong insistence on 'I do it myself', which I think is a continuation of that baby frustration at being stuck where he'd been put.

DS1 screamed at me for the first 6 months! Then he improved, although he was very strong willed and could throw spectacular tantrums, however he was also quite cheerful in between. At 3yrs, I’d say he’s still there - strong willed and stubborn, but also happy and sweet in between. He’s certainly easier than he was as a baby so don’t lose hope. It’s easier when language comes and you can talk with them, less frustration all round.

My grumpy, stroppy baby/toddler is now a lovely, calm, easy going 9 year old.

Her little brother was The World's Easiest Baby, and an utter delight as a toddler - but is now a difficult, mardy, argumentative six year old.

One of my children was an absolute nightmare baby, by the age of two they had become and remain an absolute delight.
Another was the calmest, happiest, most content baby they are now an angry bundle of frustration and anxiety.

I have no idea what changed either of them.

My v v v grumpy and non sleeping / non eating / constant and screaming crying DS as a baby was fine as a teen.
My DD was a 'textbook' baby - eating / Sleeping / no crying unless for a reason.

She is now 15 and I am suffering for it !

Definitely not.
Eldest dc was a very grumpy, non sleeping, frustrated baby who at 16 is very pleasant most of the time.
Dc2 was also a grumpy and frustrated baby but as soon as he could talk it changed - he is so layed back he's horizontal.
Dc3 was the most easy going baby but became a stroppy, to independent for own good, knows her own mind toddler and now at 11 can be moody, want things a specific way (is probably the hardest of the 3 currently - but that could all change next week).

Dc 1 was the grumpiest baby ever! As a 4 year old now he is amazing. Still sensitive and emotional (tears come easy) but SO gentle and loving and generally extremely happy. Dc2 was such a happy baby and is still a v happy 2 year old but I can tell he is not going to be as sensitive and gentle. I’m due a 3rd and would hope it’s a combo of the 2!

My demanding, tantrum y baby is similar as a teen - and more expensive. But, at least, at this stage, you can put space between you. They go out and you can go out.

Nothing was harder than the baby and toddler stage

Ds1 was very grumpy and bad tempered toddler and young child (only at home, at school he was a model child) He started to chill out from about 8 years old and now at nearly 16 is very cheerful, polite and laid back. We cant believe he is the same child.

My easy going dd is now a grumpy pre teen 😂

No.
My adult DS is the calmest, most difficult to rile, most chilled person you could meet. But my goodness what a grumpy baby he was.

Ds2 was a whinger, awkward , everything a battle. If I’d have had him first he’d have been an only child. From the age of 4 he has been a delight and a dream teenager.
Ds1 was a model baby . Had a quick temper all his life and much trickier

14 years on I can safely say yes, yes they do. ds2 was born scowling, we actually joked that we had never seen a more adorable grump in all our lives.
He still has the world upon his shoulders, and his glass is always half empty, but he gives the best cuddles and is a real gem of a boy. All be it a grumpy gem.

My difficult grumpy baby is now a delightful 5 year old. Pretty high energy but polite and kind and a joy to be around. Hoping her laid back baby sister doesn’t do the opposite!

Not necessarily. My youngest was a nightmare baby who whinged and griped constantly. He's now the most chilled young man with a very sunny disposition! (He started to improve once he was up and walking!)