Should I go to social services?!?! Help?!

[Girls01]

I have never had a relationship with my child’s father and for the whole of her life so far we have remained amicable but I have had constant issues with him cancelling visits, not paying, messing us around etc. I have now been told by someone close to the situation that he has been using drugs around her when she has been to visit him and he resents her and has previously thought about wishing her harm.

I don’t know how true the last part of this is but I do know it’s something I can’t ignore. The drug part would fit with the constant cancellations and money issues.

I personally deep down do not want my little girl to see him, I have however always encouraged their relationship as I know that is the right thing to do.

Now I don’t know what to do with this information, where to go for help or what to think!! Please let me know your thoughts!

If you are concerned for her safety then absolutely speak to social services and seek legal advice ASAP. You'd never forgive yourself if you did nothing and something happened.

@Moonbabyskalimba

If you are concerned for her safety then absolutely speak to social services and seek legal advice ASAP. You'd never forgive yourself if you did nothing and something happened.

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In my opinion, your child and her safety comes above everything else, including fairness to her father. If you have any concerns about her welfare, seek official/legal advice about it and stop any visits with her father without you also present, until you are 100% certain she is safe.

Yes you must seek their advice.

Thank you everyone, I have been going out of my mind wondering whether I was doing the right thing. I will make a phone call first thing tomorrow

@Girls01 I have however always encouraged their relationship as I know that is the right thing to do. why?

What is right about a child seeing a drug-abusing person as a role odel to learn from?

I am absolutely puzzled by a notion that a bad parent is better than no parent at all. It's a lie. It's totally wrong, not true and it makes me sad people say this.

[quote ZooKeeper19]**@Girls01* I have however always encouraged their relationship as I know that is the right thing to do.* why?

What is right about a child seeing a drug-abusing person as a role odel to learn from?

I am absolutely puzzled by a notion that a bad parent is better than no parent at all. It's a lie. It's totally wrong, not true and it makes me sad people say this.[/quote]
I read the OP to mean she knew he was a bit flaky but the drug use and abusive type behaviours she has only just found out about. And now she has realised she is obviously concerned and asking for advice on what to do.